H wasnt acting quite right again, so I got up the nerve to call that cell #. Surprise! OW that he was supposed to have NC since June. We had a nice long chat. We cleared up alot of mysteries for both of us. LIES LIES LIES. Come to find out there's not just me and her. There is at least 2 others. What a way to spend Christmas Eve. Pray for me folks, PLEASE. And those of you who are in a better place than me, enjoy the holidays and really appreciate what you have. I hope to be where you are this time next year.
Sorry to hear the bad news. This is really horrible. I hope you get through the holidays alright. Try to find a small space for taking care of you inside all of this mess and chaos.
((((((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))) How awful! I am so sorry. It is bad enough to have another d-day cause NC has been broken, but that there are more OWs'.....oh my. I dont even know what to say. Just know that we are all here for you.
Sending prayers your way...
~ CAL
"You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection" ~ Buddha
Thanks to both of you. It means alot that you all are here for me. This has to be the hardest day of my life. He's still lying and when I show him the proof, he gets defensive and angry at me like he's justified and Im completely wrong.
???????? I just cant understand that at all. Im so confused and blindsided I cant sleep or even think.
I know this is the end of the M I just dont have the strength to do anything right now.
Hello - I don't mean to be the bringer of mistrust and division - All I would say is that there are many untruths also told by the other people involved in affairs - My advice is to take the council and advice of those you can trust and such people may well not be the OPs involved in As. In the terrible situation you are in it can help to try to open up the space you see things in - I try to see how weak and fallible we all are - I try, if it is possible to see the weakness in your H and the OPs too - I see that we are all weak and vulnerable and this is one of the great things that the life of Christ taught us. I like to think of Jesus as making it a good and strong thing to be vulnerable and open to all the fallibilities we all hold. Today of all days I am trying hard to find love for all of us - including for myself. So I urge you to to try to love you, your H and everyone of us here who suffers or who has caused suffering to our weak and vulnerable human lives. This is in the nature of my life I see and I presume for others too.
I'm so sorry you had to deal with this on Christmas Eve. The holidays are hard enough as it is, when your dealing with this A stuff, but more revelations during the holiday must be especially hard.
I have to agree with Jerry on trusting any info obtained from OW. You have proof that H broke NC with OW 1, but you only have her word that there are other OWs, unless she has provided proof. What is her motivation for telling you this? Is she going to end it with him because there are 2 more OWs or is she hoping you are going to end it with H because there are 2 more OWs and then she can have H to herself?
Whether or not there are other OWs, he did break NC and that hurts and is unacceptable. I hope you can find some measure of peace this holiday season.
I also have to agree. You cannot trust an OW to tell you the truth. But NC being broken is already enough of an issue and causes tremendous pain and further distrust. Having 2 d-days myself I certainly understand how you are feeling. Again, I am so sorry...(((((((hugs))))))))
~ CAL
"You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection" ~ Buddha
Dear Osfan, I am so very sorry the holidays were marred by this latest turn of events. Though I agree with others that oftentimes OW's (and OM's) will not necessarily be accurate in passing on information, my gut is telling me she's probably right. What is your gut telling you?
((Osfan)) Your H appears to be a serial cheater. Its unclear what his particular issues are. Whatever they may be, they are nothing that you can solve. He cheated previously with you, and now that you are with him, he is cheating on you. This pattern will go on and on until he truly understands that this is destructive behavior for himself and anyone else within his circle. Even then, it will take a lot of digging and personal work from him to overcome this pattern.
I have faith in you. I believe you can heal. It hurts so much; I know. But this man is not good for you while he continues unchecked. I wish for you a new year...with new opportunities...new beginnings (with or without him)...and new hope. ((Osfan)) BlueIris
"We cannot wait for the storm to pass; we must learn to walk in the rain."
