Just found out that my lying H has been calling escort services for the past 4 years not 1 1/2. Better yet, he called them multiple times every year on our wedding anniversary. God, am I fool or what? I think that that hurts the most. He swears that he will never do it again and hasn't since I found out in July. I really don't know if I can trust him. I purchased Dr. Gunzburg's "How to Survive An Affair". Has anybody read it? I truly do not know what I want to do or am going to do. We have an appt with a counseler on the 24th if I don't strangle him first. I am sooooo angry with him and with myself. I was married before to an abusive horrible man (he died of a heart attack) and really thought Gary was different. Guess it shows you what kind of perception that I have. I am really grateful for this forum and being abe to "Talk" with others that have similar experiences. Thanks for leting me vent .........
The lies continue as a self protection .. Your H is protecting himself from your anger.. and lies because their thinking is what you don't know won't hurt you..
4 yrs long time ...1/2 hr not so bad..the thinking or lack of thinking is very common for the WS.
My H had many yrs of ONS and lied so much that what ever he told me I doubled and tripled ...to get the big picture..
IC has been a great help to my H...he has been good for 5 plus yrs..
Keep venting we all know where you are coming from and understand your feelings.
(((hugs)))
Pat
"Time is precious, but truth is more precious than time."
