Hello, I am here...in a fashion. Haven't logged in for a couple of weeks or so, too much going on. Thank you for asking after me.
You may remember that OW assaulted me in the street? I DID eventually report it to the police as so many people said I should get it put on record. As I write this, she has been interviewed about it but (of course) she denies hitting me. I knew that it was only her word against mine so I realise that the Crown Prosecution Service will NOT be able to take it any further. But at least there is an official report logged.
She has also been given a FINAL police warning over her stalking. H himself complained to the police that she was still pestering him when he didn't want it and that she was forcing him away from his work. For three weeks after the warning she laid off and left us alone but both H and I felt that it was only a lull while the police were on her case. She did this before when they cautioned her for harrassment...she left off for a couple of weeks then started again with increasing pace.
So she changed tack. She contacted my 15 year old son's school and told them that he was bullying her 12 year old son. He was not and in fact hardly ever sees her son. Because of his age, he is allowed out of school to go into town but her son would not be allowed to. Fortunately the school know my son is not a bully and they also know the circumstances.
Horribly for me she once phoned the school and told them to 'expel' him. The school told her that it was THEIR place to expel, not hers and anyway they had no reason to do so. But as they were puzzled by it, they asked my boy why he thought this parent would say these things about him. My poor boy was left with no option but to explain the circumstances to the school. So because they are aware, they did not take her accusations of bullying at all seriously and are watching her son closely because he is trying to wind my son up by staring at him etc.
She has also tried to get my 18 year old son into trouble with the police. She told them that he had made death threats against her, drives in his car to her house EVERY night to scream abuse at her and that he slashed her tyres. The police called my son into the station to be formally interviewed (which they had to do as OW had made the allegations) but she tripped herself up. My son was able to say truthfully that he doesn't actually have a car at the moment....he had sold the car he had (which she would have seen him in some weeks ago) and bought another car which needed work doing on it to make it road legal. He has been working on this car but it was kept in his workplace (a garage) as it was having work done on it by himself and his fellow mechanics. The police were surprised when he pointed this out and wrote stuff down as he said it. My son felt that the police were 'kind' to him, as if they knew he wasn't guilty of the allegations. This has gone no further now as we have been told that they won't be pressing charges against him.
But OW is now phoning again from call boxes and putting the phone down when we answer. She started off with the odd call but she is now increasing it to several times a day again. And my elder son has witnessed her doing her 'surveillance' again. This is what we call her 'drive-bys'...she goes past our (no-through) street, slows down to stare in then turns around in the next street to do the same thing again. She is barred from entering our road by the police but she still persists in driving past the end of the road.
I don't know what the outcome of all this will be but we are reaching crisis point. Our income has been so badly affected, we are in serious debt now. I am reluctant to drive my taxi now as I feel vulnerable..only last Saturday I was in the taxi rank outside our local nightclub when OW turned up with a pal. She then proceeded to shout abuse at me. SHE has the nerve to shout abuse at ME when she knowingly slept with a married man? Nasty piece of S***.
We are considering giving up our taxi business. We could sell our number to another taxi driver (he has offered to buy it) which would stop her constant calling. If it was just me and H, we would have moved to make a fresh start but our boys have their lives here too so that isn't an option. But I do NOT feel comfortable in the town I live in...and that is a sad state of things.
Her constant presence makes healing harder for me. When I see her, I present her with a brazen front but when I turn away from her sight, I cry. Then I turn into myself so that H can't reach me. My head is a mess...I have always been a calm, rational person but now I feel bouts of rage and my blood literally boils in my veins. It ain't healthy and I worry about the long term effects on my health. Sometimes I hate H for what he has done to our family, even though I know he is genuinely repentant.
Sorry for rambling on again. I feel like I am going to burst sometimes.
