It has been a long time since I've posted. It has been really busy and I don't have enough hours in a day. LOL

I've come a long ways in my recovery starting back with Peggy Vaughan's BAN support group more than ten years ago.

For those of you who are in your first two years, I will testify that IT DOES GET BETTER. I hardly ever think about Dday any more.

Hoping all of you can enjoy some aspects of Independence Day.

Lee

Lee,

thank you for posting .. Glad you are doing well!!!!

((((hugs))))

Pat

"Time is precious, but truth is more precious than time."

Just saying "hello"

~ CAL
"You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection" ~ Buddha

Hi Lee,

I was on Peggy's site in 2000, I really enjoyed when they had the live boards. I found much strength and friendship there. My EH of 30 yrs left me to rescue a addict. He had 12 yrs sobriety but had not found serenity. Now his advise to his adult children is to never, never cheat the price is too high. He lets all know that the biggest mistake he ever made was what he had done to his marriage.

Now it's like DeJaVu, I'm going through a seperation with my live in BF of 6yrs. He has a pain killer addiction and all the red flags jumped out at me. He wants me back but there's been too much betrayal. I'm going back to C as I know logically what I need to do for myself but need the extra support emotionally. "Care taker Sue" that's been me for most of my life and I really need to begin taking care of me! No more just settling for what is going on in my life, I have to take control of it. It's that darned "rejection" I struggle with. It's like a drug fix when he tells me how sorry he is and "loves" me, I know it's only a temporary fix. It's like I'll buy into all his "BS" just to hear the words as shallow as they are. Actions, actions, actions speak louder, I know that in my head!

Life is a journey, one day at a time. We nevre know what's around the corner, good or bad. For myself, I only have control on how I take life on, as a "victim" or a "survivor". As a victim there is no growth as a survivor ther's growth and recovery.

It's wonderful to hear words of encouragement!
Sue