I am new here and just wondered if anyone is dealing with this. I am and do not know how to forgive this?

Lola,

We have had several people who have dealt with this in the past. Hopefully one of them is still reading and will tell you their story.

I would think that an OC would make things more difficult, but I also know that first and foremost your WS has to be completely remorseful and really and truly sees your pain. The WS has to be willing to be an open book and do what ever is necessary for as long as it takes. If you have this, then there is reason to believe you can forgive and live with the fact that an child has come from the affair.

Ami

My H has not given me full disclosure of this. This is an issue I have always questioned and at first he completely denied the possibility, and over the years has gradually admitted. He does not understand why this is upsetting to me. He feels since we were not married, it should not bother me. I am just not sure if the issues are mine or if this is normal to be so completely upset. Thank you for your response Ami.