If any of you recall a past member by the name of Kelson (Robin), I'm sorry to tell you that he was killed in an accident a few weeks ago.
Robin and I have remained friends and support, since we met here in 2001 - and actually met in person last year. I will miss his daily e-mails and support. He was an inspiration to me for being able to put his marriage and pain in the past and move on.
These type of events make me question why? Robin was a good husband who went through a lot of pain with an unfaithful wife. He was a good father (adopted her first child too) who deserved to see his little girls grow up; and most importantly to give them the role model they didn't have in their mother.
Makes you ask why?
Robin ~ I will always rememeber you ...thank you for being there my friend.
What makes me angry is that the ex wife was there, and expressed to their friend that she is dealing with a lot of guilt now ...Good! I hope she deals with it until she dies too. Sorry but no sympathy here for her - he was a loving and faithful wife and tried to give her everything she needed and she did nothing but lie and cheat ....I hope she not only lives with it, but has to face a higher being some day.
Also, lesson for everyone out there - apparently he kept putting off changing his beneficiary ...you don't even want to know what the ex ended up with !! And sad is that his children will see little of it !
Was this a developing relationship for you? It's just so unbelievably tragic.
I changed my beneficiaries at some point during or right after the divorce after overhearing (phone) the old OW say in a snotty tone, "I suppose she'll take you off of everything as her beneficiary!"
I thought to myself~~Yep. That's what I'll do.....and I did it pronto for many reasons. Obviously my money had occurred to her.
I've seen the darndest things happen to people because they put off the details. It's so sad if someone crosses over and you know that things are not being handled the way in which they would have wished them to be.
Yes I remember Kelson too............I am sorry to hear about what happened.........sometimes life just isn't fair and bad things happen to good people.
I hope all is well with his family.
Cherish I am sorry that Kelson did not get to see his girls grow up and that you have lost someone who supported and helped you.
I don't think I would have thought of the beneficiary for a while if I had divorced. Maybe lawyers tell you that kind of stuff. What a shame the girls won't get what he wanted them to have.
Keeping in mind I live in Canada - i tried to change my beneficiary for my insurance through work. Apparently because I am only seperated and not divorced my spouse (ex) has full rights to any monies that come from my pension, but not life insurance. Life insurance you pick the beneficiary, while pension is automatically in spouses name if you are married.
I changed mine about a year and a half ago, shortly after my ex moved out since somebody would stand to get double my annual salary. Didn't want the old man to off me!
Cherish, I rarely read, and even more rarely post. Not healed -- just 'reconciled' to that fact that it may never happen, I guess. . .
But another time for that.
Today was one of those days I just decided to do some reading. The news about Kelson, whom I also remember well, and remember as being so wise and supportive, is tragic indeed.
Thank you for sharing the sad news with those who remember him, and I, too, am sorry for your personal loss.
Rockypoo - good to hear from you. I don't come out here very often either - but its nice to see some old names. Considering how we all met - its strange that its comforting to see familar people? Life is funny?
There are still times when I go to e-mail Robin and I can't believe he's gone. Thank you everyone for your kind words.
Too all of you that are still dealing with so much pain - always remember that life can be very short - make it all you can.
As for me, I'm doing well. I just bought a new house - I decided it was time to move on - sometimes I remembered all the pain in that house - the times I prayed not to wake up again - and I realized its time for something new. So now I bought a house 2x the size for the dog and I !!
I'm also still seeing the long distance man. And amazingly we're able to spend about 10 days a month together (8 months). He is wonderful and thinks I'm pretty great too - we'll see where the future takes us....
My ex is now working in our town again - and he and his wife (OW) live two hours away? Its actually funny - we reversed from where he worked and lived when they met - wonder if she thinks about how easy that made it to have his affair? After 3 years (August) I've still never met her and have never run into him since the divorce - although the idiot asks people how I am doing ??
All in all - life is pretty good. Good friends, good family, new house, great dog, new car, good job, financially secure, wonderful love, great sex...what the heck more could I ask for? Well to see the ex and wife get hit by a car would be kind of fun, but as they say ....you can't always get what you want - but if you try real hard - you get what you need . HAHA
I am so so very sorry to hear this news...when did this happen? So many times we don't see someone posting and forget their screename until someone else reminds us.
This is so very sad.
Thank you for letting us know...If you have a newspaper links, please do share.
