Hi guys. Last night I went to therapy and learned some interesting things about my H and my marriage. My counselor said that some men have a difficult time sharing their wives attention with the children. They want to be the center of her attention at all times. We have two kids and our son is mentally impaired so I give them a lot of my attention. This makes so much sense because when my H and the OW would have sex in her minivan with the childseats sitting right there, he asked her if that made her feel guilty and she said "No, because I know what I want.". She put him ahead of her children and that's what stroked his ego. I'm not sure I'll ever be able to put him ahead of my children.
She also said that him always working on his laptop at night while we watch t.v. is a huge problem, more of a problem than I realized. He works everynight, programming while we sit on the couch and vege. My counselor says that he is ignoring me and because computers give him a response right away that he is emotionally masturbating while using the computer. Wow, never heard it put that way before. She is right though, for several years now my H and I have never gone to bed together, I go to bed around 11 or 12 and he always stays up working. It makes me feel really lonely but if I mention it to him he says that he's not ready to go to bed, that his mind is racing.
My C also knew that my H was ADD, I never mentioned that to her. This woman is good. I can't wait to back next week.
