Stupid OW felt compelled to rent a house that is a 5-minute walk from H's parents house. Stupid OW was shocked when I got upset when I stumbled on her new address she posted (with regard to a garage sale) on a blog community we both read. How is H or the two of us ever supposed to visit his parents? It's a small city, there were plenty of other places she could rent. Then she gets upset because I post back asking what is she doing moving 5 minutes away from my in-laws. She claims that I'm violating her privacy. And its like - hello - what about went I asked her to stay the hell away from H? She claims she "forgot" that's where his family was (even though that's where she picked him up from for their tryst). I hate how much control she has over me. I hate it.
I understand your dilema and feelings. OW sounds like she is purposely trying to cause trouble. Unfortunately there is not much you can do about where she lives, but you can do something about her having control over you. Put her out of your head, and dont let her get to you. She is not worth your time or your effort. And maybe your in-laws can come visit you instead of you having to go there. There are always options.
I hope tomorrow is a better day for you (((((hugs))))
Thanks Carol, I really appreciate your response. Not letting OW have control over me is the biggest challenge I've faced with the affair. I don't know why I give her the power to hurt me so much, especially when she lives far away.
Its tough because we frequently go to visit other relatives, but not H's parents. At the same time, we don't have the best relationship with them, which makes avoiding them easier. <<sigh>>
You hang in there. The OW from my H affair lives around the corner and is his boss! We are trying to move and he has applied for several jobs, so I know just how you feel. She is even going to our church! Everytime you feel like slapping her face, just remember that you are better than her. Good Luck!
Thanks everyone. I made a big mistake after d-day and got tangled up with OW (trading e-mails, etc.). This made me way too vulnerable to her when she acts maliciously. That contact has stopped. I'll make a plan of how to deal with running into her before our next visit to H's parents. It never ceases to amaze me how many strong people are on this board. I can't imagine keeping a marriage together and living near OW.