I would like to thank everyone for all of the responses given. It seems this response took on quite a life of it's own! Cherish, I believe I recall some of the posts you wrote before and I am sorry to hear things did not go well for you. I believe that Liz did not mean any harm with what she had written, she just offered a different viewpoint. I agree with you that it is foolish to stay in a bad marriage versus divorce, however, it is my opinion to absolutely exhaust every possibility to make the marriage work before addressing divorce as an option.
I believe in my situation that Liz's hopes were actually on target. I was in a very, very low point in my "ride" and am happy to say my wife and I are actually gaining altitude lately. Our long conversation opened up some issues that got addressed and I believe some "fog" has lifted.
I agree with Jim in Texas as far as our marriage being on autopilot and having had issues that were never correctly addressed. These issues manifested themselves and created serious underlying problems in the marriage. The affair brought seven years of issues to the surface and even after two years, we are still trying to find our way through these issues. As my BIL put it, the eternal fountain of hope is never-ending and I am still holding on.
Anyway, thanks again to everyone who helped me through another very rough time, I cannot tell you how comforting it was to have an outlet to use. Thanks!!!!!!
