Just so frustrated today. H has to be gone this weekend for work, and they always use the same hotel. Of course the one where they would meet up! #$#@!#$%^&*(&^%^$%$#@#%%^&^&&*&^^%$%^^&&**^%%# He is only going to be one night and I made sure the OW's H knows that he is going to be there since she is still pursuing even after my H told her it was over. It just hurts so much. I know, this too shall pass. Anybody know how to make it pass quicker? Thanks, just had to rant a little.
Boy honey, do I understand.
One night. Okay, tell him that he needs to be available to you at all times. Cell phone, e-mail, you need room number, call him whenever you want, whenever you need. His being open and available to you is KEY!!
Now for you. You need to schedule something while he's gone. Go to the movies with friends, go out to dinner with friends, make sure you have something that occupies your mind so that you don't have too much time to obsess over where he is, what he's doing.
Husband wanted me to come with him when this happened to us...but I thought it was better for us all to let him go it alone. If he couldn't deal with it by himself what was the point of staying.
Its good that the other party knows too....and you are right this too will pass.
It did help to keep in contact and know the schedule...my h was wonderful and about calling and texting all the time, even though I didn't ask him to.
Set him free to show you how much he really cares....you're half way their just by talking about it in the open.
This is a big issue for me too. H travels a lot and used that as an excuse to meet up with OW all over the country and the world. I hate the thought of him in a hotel and I've been travelling with him as much as I can, but I have a job and the kids so I can't always go. He is pretty good about sending e-mails while he is away and he now lets me know which hotel and what the program is, and intellectually I trust him but I'm an emotional wreck while he is away; the worst thoughts and the bottom of my mental reserves.
