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My Plans for 2006

December 31 2005 at 9:35 AM

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Well, seems we all made it through the holidays, rough as it was for some (me included...it's a sad time of year for me).

Anyway, my Plans for the New Year are as follows:

I graduate from Beauty College, as a Nail Tech, on February 3rd. Should have my license by the end of that month.

Then I'll be working at my sister's salon. I look forward to my new career, and working with sis....

I've decided that my H and I need to move away from this house, away from this town, even if it's only to the next town (where the salon is) - some 15 miles. But THIS town has TOO many triggers, and is NOT good for my feelings of well being. My H has finally agreed. He grew up here, and never wanted to leave, but he now realizes how it affects me here....even the college I'm attending is within view of where he worked and had the A.

Anyway.....I think a fresh start in another house, another town, another career, is just what I need. My H has a new job, supposedly doesn't have any contact with OW or her cronies (altho his best friend is friends with all of them...so, one never knows....my H said is is not in contact with his best friend anymore, either, as his BF did not support our marriage).

I will never know, for sure, if H is telling the truth about no contact, as we went through almost a year of him promising me he had no contact, when he had almost daily contact, and I found out later, of course.

But, I MUST move on, start a new life....and I told H.....I hope he wants to come with me, but if he doesn't, then we can say goodbye, because I can't stay here and suffer.

I'll be closer to my sister and family, and won't have to suffer the triggers this house and town provide on a daily basis (I can't even go to the store, as that's where he has "ran into" previous GF's, OW, and her cronies) without triggering.

So, I know I have to remove myself from this town, even if it's only a few miles down the road. I know that it's a "hop and a skip" for H to be in contact with all of it...but at least I don't have to put up with the daily triggers.

The only bad thing is....the town we'd be moving to is close to the where OW lives....my H says he doesn't know where she lives...ahem....but that's another story (I DO).

So, enough rambling...just thought I'd post my intentions for the New Year.

I hope everyone at HH has similar plans to move forward, and create a happier New Year...

HUGS to all, and a Happy New Year!!

Cheri

 
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Re: My Plans for 2006

December 31 2005, 10:48 AM 

((((((((Cheri))))))))

I loved your post! You have grown so much. I see it. You are now able to make choices for YOU and what is best for YOU. AND Congratulations on your pending graduation. Another great move...another great choice! Things are looking up for you and I am os happy for you. I am sure you are feeling very empowered right now and optimistic about the future. Way to go girl! I am so proud of you...you should be very proud of yourself as well.

Best wishes for 2006 and beyond...
Carol~

 
 

spirit
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Re: My Plans for 2006

December 31 2005, 9:08 PM 

hi mate,

it has been a pleasure to chat with you over the year and as carol says you have grown so much, well maybe not so much grown but been able to show us who you are what you can be.

i wish you all the things you would wish for yourself in 2006, you have worked hard and done so very well.

fly and be free hon and congrats for all your efforts

if i ever come to the states i shall call in to get my nails done hahaha

hugs
kath

 
 
Summer
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Hooray!

January 10 2006, 6:14 AM 

That is soooooo great! It is really good to see you guys making progress, and you sound like you are really feeling confident about yourself! So here's one of my all time favorite quotes..."Life is a big canvas:throw all of the paint on it you can!" (Danny Kaye) Congratulations!

Summer

 
 
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