"He's Just Not That Into You"

I am curious has anyone read this book?  If so, what did you think?

I found this article quotting some of the book and just thought I'd share it with you and get some thoughts.

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"He's just not that into you"

if he's having sex with someone else"

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What you should have learned in this chapter:

+ There is no excuse for cheating. Let me say it again. There is no excuse for cheating. Now you say it. There is no excuse for cheating.

+ Your only responsibility in someone else's lapse in judgement is to yourself.

+ Cheating is cheating. It doesn't matter whom it was with or how many times it happened.

+ Cheating gets easier every time it's done. It's only hard the first time, when one feels the sting of morality and the guilt of betraying someone's trust.

+ Cheaters never prosper. (Because they suck.)

+ A cheater only cheats himself, because he doesn't get to be with you.
 

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Here are our five suggestions on what your man could have done if he was unsatisfied in your relationship. (You'll notice, none of them include sleeping with someone else.)

1. Talk about it.
2. Write about it.
3. Sing about it.
4. E-mail about it.
5. Even put a puppet show about it.

Now think of five of your own. (We know we took the easiest ones, but we still think there's at least five more you can come up with.)

1.
2.
3.
4.
5.

Read them, have a laugh, dump the cheater. Of course I can't tell you what to do. But dump him.

Text copyright 2004 by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo.

I read it... Cute book. Greg Behrendt is actually very, very funny. It's just "OK". Nothing too spectacular, lots of common sense advice.

What makes the book a little better are all the stories in it - all the "Dear Greg" letters. It's amazing how little some of us settle for and STILL don't get the picture that he's just NOT that into us.

His new book, "It's Called a Break Up Because It's Broken" is EXCELLENT. Lots of good advice, funny stories and personal things about the authors' breakups.

Monica

This is your life. Are you who you want to be? ~ Switchfoot

Hi Carol !

I have a few single/divorced friends who read it, but I haven't.  My impression of the book (and I could be wrong) is that it applies to people who are dating.  If that is the case, then the excerpt from the book (that you included) would make more sense to me.

I think when you are married or in a committed relationship a WS has a 'reason' to correct their behaviour (even though not all of them even attempt to do so).  And if you can rebuild a marriage, then it's worth trying.  But in a dating situation, it is far easier to walk away (no messy divorce).  Plus if you were dating a guy who messed around, then felt guilty about it and cleaned up his act (while you supported him and stuck by him)...he could take the 'new and improved' person he becomes and move on.  I'd be pissed off LOL!!

Just my 2 cents !

Kara

I have just heard so much talk about this book.  I have about 6 books on my "to read" list and was wondering if this book was worth my time and putting on my list.  I know it is not a book for "married couples" but who knows what the future holds?  LOL

Carol~