I have been thinking about everyones' advice about triggers. That being, don't let them have power over you. Face them and refuse to be upset by them.

So the OW's house is on the way to my favorite store. There is more than one way that I can get there so can avoid her house if I choose. Today, I chose to go the way that would take me by her house. I did it purposely to prove that I could go where I wanted and not be affected by it. It felt good to take control and not let it control me.

Trinity

hi trin

that is excellant advise, and yes with time (that four letter word again) sometimes, time does reduce the impact of triggers.

and it is about control, sure one might still be disturbed about a trigger, but one learns to control our reaction to them.

well done, besides THE MOST important thing on that particular road is your fav shop!!!!!!

take care
kath

Great job Trinity!  You are doing well, and I am proud of you.  

Take Care...Carol~

Trinity

Good for you!!!!!

I need to do this, take control of the triggers and occassionally I do. Music, certain songs are huge triggers for me. If a particular song comes on teh radio I usually turn the station. But ocassionally I have confronted the trigger and enjoyed the song, because I do not want to let her or the A have the power over me. It is very difficult because most of the trigger songs are love songs which is so very painful. But when I can take control it truly feels good.

If we can conquer one hurdle at a time we will make it.

I hope shopping was good!

Lisa