Although our marriage seems to be healing, I am still unable to quit thinking about the OW.
She continues to have affairs with married men; wrecking lives seems to be her hobby. It seems that she always gets away with no pain, no punishment, nothing negative. This just causes a slow burn with me.
Now, for fantasies....
What about a "Wh##e Alert" database on the web?
List the name, address, known past addresses, know phone numbers, known e-mail addresses, birth date, description, previous employers, current employer, etc.!
It could be searchable by any of the fields. For example, want to know the identified OW within fifty miles, just enter your zip (postal) code and choose "within 50 miles."
This would be excellent for the serial OW.
I know, I know. Can't do this. But, wouldn't it be wonderful? I know it would have been helpful to the lady living across the street from her.
A$$hole as I call her BRAGGED about all the affairs she had. It was an absoulte way of life. She informed my H about all the gifts she um... earned from various men. I could go on and on...
but for me the line that hurt the most was that her OWN children thought their mother was a whore. One of them told that to my husband. Of course I told my H that the same was true of him.
I started to say I WISh there were a way we really could warn innocent victims... this really hurts.
I have similar thoughts... I think of things like newspaper ads and billboards featuring the OW's picture with a Big "A" plastered on her forehead. The Scarlet Letter. It isn't so much about revenge as about trying to make the OW feel what I felt, continue to feel. Humiliation...helplessness...weak and powerless. Immature, I know. Not helping with my healing, true. Never really going to happen. But sometimes it is feelings, thoughts like this that get you through the long nights.
Well, there is a website that lists cheating men...pictures and all! I wish I could remember the name, lol. It warns women to watch out for these guys. I have not heard of one for women though.
Anyone can start a website about anything they want....scary, isnt it?!!! <insert evil grin>
Oh, I cannot begin to tell you how badly I've wanted revenge on OW, I STILL think of all the nasty things I'd like to do. I love your idea of a website, perhaps in my case OW's H would FINALLY find out. I want her to experience the sheer agony and PAIN that I have, and beyond.....I've contemplated sending the rudest sex toy I could get my hands on to her work, leaving notes on her H's car windshield, calling her H and being direct with him about what went on, keying her van, letting air out of tires. It just seems so unfair to me that she got off with no pain. Ultimately though, she has to live with the dishonesty and sleaziness of it all. I truly hope that what goes around, comes around....I'm totally with you on the website though....I am doing a really good job of healing overall (only 5 mos. post d-day)but this is one thing I have not let go of yet. I know I won't do anything but am so tempted..... I'm right there with you!!!!!! Take care of you......... Cheers, Janna
