Hello All,

I often wonder what being strong means to others. What does it mean to you in your situation?

Being strong to me means:
Not accepting silence as an answer.
Not accepting responsibility for someone elses issues/mistakes but accepting of my own failings and admitting to them and trying to right them.
Having clear boundaries.
Having faith in myself and my abilities.
Learning to love myself and taking care of ME!
Learning how to forgive myself and others and being vulnerable.
Learning from the experiences that life has throwm my way and not feeling sorry for msyelf as a result (working on this one BIG time).
Being honest with myself and others and expecting others to be honest with me.
Being sympathetic to others feelings and respecting their personal views, even if I do not agree with them.
Continuing to find good in the world admist all the bad that I have experienced and continuing to love others, even those who have hurt me.
Continuing to being open to new experiences and not to be afraid of the unknown.


~ Cal
"You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection" ~ Buddha

Strong has meant different things to me at different times in this journey.

8 months ago - strong was making that move to understand why my H seemed "off."

6 months ago - strong was getting myself out of bed and getting a shower.

4 months ago - strong was learning all that I could about what H did and was still doing in addition to learning to forgive.

2 months ago - strong was saying I had enough. I was done if things didnt change.

1 month ago - strong was taking that chance on my relationship, again, (heart thinking) with my H even though my brain was saying "get out!"

3 weeks ago - strong meant not saying I TOLD YOU SO to my H when he came home and told me he was fired from his job. (All due to OW4 and his activities.)

2 weeks ago - strong was me going to work and moving forward with life while I watched H look for a new job... thinking who is next at his next place of employment.

1 week ago - strong was making plans, future trips with H.


For me, when I have felt the strongest is when I have been able to forgive, love and be loved.

Good question - good post!

Coral



"A discovery is said to be an accident meeting a prepared mind."

Being Strong

My thoughts are that being strong is looking at the positives in your life...gets you thru the negatives because you focus on the good...hard as it may be at times.

I think that Cal's list is pretty complete...the added piece would be faith in God for those of us who believe in a higher spirit.

Pat


"Time is precious, but truth is more precious than time."