Don't feel bad, Jules....mine doesn't "swish" either. Mine generally moves as one mass...LOL
I like my hair to be soft, but unless it has been straightened, it usually does not qualify as soft.
I like my hair to be easy to comb thru, which usually happens after about a week and a half of not washing it. I generally go for two weeks before I wash...seems to agree well with my hair...
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