I am 26 and have been hit fast with hairloss.

I tried the shaved look but really I just look ridiculous without hair. I know wearing is not as good as real hair and I know society looks down on people who wear hairpieces.

I have heard a lot of good things about toplace though and I read it could look good and many people would not be able to tell you were wearing. So I had a few questions I was wondering if I could get an opinion on.

1) Did you experience an increase in self esteem after you starting wearing and were able to make the hair look good? Also if you had a problem of obsessing over your hair loss did you find this diminshed and you were able to focus on the other areas of your life better?

2) Did women respond differently to you? I take good care of myself and stay in great shape. With hair women flirt with me often and usually are kind to me. When I shaved my head this all stopped. Everyone in general just seemed to respond to me in a more negative fashion.

3) How much total money should I plan to spend yearly on wearing and the cost that are involved?

Thankyou in advance for your time.

1. None. Always had high self-esteem
2. Only diff is women say I love your hair. I've always hit on the hottest single girl in the room. Same amount of success.
3. Varies with each individual.

Personally I don't agree that society looks down on men wearing hair pieces. I think there was a stigma to the older pieces that weren't well done and looked obvious.Things have changes dramatically regarding men and their appearances. I have personally never met a woman that would criticize a man for trying to look better. In fact they are the most encouraging and supportive of positive change. Take some time like I did (although not that much time) and read the posts, look at the pictures and form your own decsion.

Financially speaking from my own research I dont think you can get better quality and pricing than Top Lace. I'm expecting to spend about $1,200 a year on hair pieces(this includes having spares) and I already color my hair and that runs me about $70 a month at a salon. I already spent about $300 for maintenance items but I'm a little fanatical on having everything I could possibly need.

As far as women falling all over me when I start wearing that would be one hell of an achievement since it never happened in my entire lifetime. lol Crap I would pay 10 times this if that happened. Seriously keep your expectations realistic regarding women , if you look better with hair you'll get more attention but if you're a jerk it aint gonna help you at all. lol

Self esteem is going to be higher anytime you feel good about yourself.I'm sure your self esteem will get higher if thats currently an issue for you.

Everyone here has been super great with me in answering questions and helping out. I would recomend MB's video witch costs about $45 , its clears up a lot of the questions you might have.

Good Luck

I have never, ever been ignored or had women stop talking to me because I have shaved my head. EVER. Total paranoia mate. Its just your own perceptions. Some Women love bald men,(ask my Girlfriend!)
some dont.

"Women" is not a collective, they are individual people, mostly who arnt that shallow, not to talk to a bloke because of how much hair he has. However, there are plenty of shallow blokes on this forum that's for sure! Some...but not all Women can be shallow too.

If you want to use a hair piece then embrace it and enjoy it...or dont bother because its not worth a load of stress you dont need.
I do both. When I work away with the army..I shave it. When I'm at home I wear a hair piece. My girlfriends past and present have all known and not one has ever given a hoot about it! They have all said they like me either way and that's it's not that important. However..confidence is. Being happy helps too in my humble experience!

As BA himself would say....FACT!!!!

"....and I know society looks down on people who wear hairpieces."

Absolute garbage! SOME people look down on others for all kinds of reasons. Its got nothing to do with "society"...its to do with ignorant people.

People really do go so over the top on here its just too difficult not to post a reply!

If I ever change my personality because of hair...please someone punch me in the head and tell me to get a grip asap...PLEASE!!!

Society in general looks down upon people wearing hairpieces. Constantly when I'm out and someone spots a bad rug we are all totally cracking on the guy. I guess the line should have been society looks down upon ridiculous looking people in general - bad rugs fall into this category and this is what Frank was talking about. You people have a hard time comprehending what is really being said.

Obviously if your hairpiece is undetectable how can someone look down or bust on you? They don't know you are wearing. DUH!

Some people have tons of confidence in a wheelchair. But make them walk and their confidence increases - if only just a bit. Not everyone was born looking like Vin Diesel. It's all too common on these boards for posters to report that their isolated experiences are the public norm - they are not. Kudos to them but lets be honest and address the masses, is that too hard?

I went from concealers to piece and the transition was subtle. However years earlier I shaved my head and the attention from woman on the street and overall respect factor dropped. Did it mean I couldn't get a girlfriend? Not at all but the approach took a little more work and the smiles on the street were fewer. Nothing earth shattering.

Keep two pieces cut in and ready to roll at all times and keep two back ups not cut in, ready to roll as well. A few weeks before cutting in backup #3 (when piece #2 is in the middle of its life span) send #4 in to TL be cloned 3 times - adding a tweak if necessary.

I'm not sure how much I spend in glues and other products but it is well worth it.

Thanks for the advice everyone.

I know I need to man up a bit and be tougher. I would like to get to a level of just not careing what other people think but that will take some work for me.

I used to be 40+ pounds overweight about 3 and half years ago. I got into lifting weights and eating right to improve myself and I now I am pretty much ripped. I didn't really do it to impress others or win approval but I have to say I was amazed at how people starting treating me different. I got more attention from my bosses at my job and was promoted. Women starting payin attention to me far more than I was accustomed to.

I guess I just have to adapt once more. I know I have some work to do on the inside. That being said in this society in this day and age it certainly seems to help to improve the outside.

Thanks again for all your advice.

You didn't get a promotion at work, and extra attention from people because you lost 40 lbs., you got the extra attention and promotion because of how you reflected your confidence to others. you became a confident man...and it showed. THAT is why...the same will happen with great hair.
You will have a new-found confidence that you didn't even know could exist.
I see this happen all the time. Ask agent smith how he felt immediately after the Minneapolis convention when we all went to the mall and he had a great looking , trendy hair style for the first time in years!! He was beaming...(and trying to pick up girls , ha ha).
its a transition for you...but , just like with your weight loss and new healthy lifestyle, you will adapt and find it makes you a happier person.
DebbieS.

Before my hair system, i was a very shy kid and person throughout my life. I used to get teased, harassed and even beaten up at times. I never had a girlfriend ever, I never knew what it was like to even kiss a girl for many years up to my 20s. I was always weak and scrawny and pathetic.

However as soon as i put on a toplace hair system, I noticed a big change in my attitude and appearance. I put on 45 pounds of lean muscle and have won mr olympia 3 years in a row now. I have dated around 300 girls since then and had sexual relations with all of them. I love out my dream now. I even am in a rock band. Girls throw their panties at me, life is great with a system. I have gotten over all of my fears in life, I am now part of the sky diving association, i scuba dive and wrestle alligators as a past time. with the help of a lil st30 tape i can do anything, i can be anyone. I can be all i can friggin be.

Are you totally sure your not just stretching the truth a touch there Xeon. Do you really Skydive too Mr Olympia?? lol.

Hi Frank,

I cant say if having more hair (wearing) will change you as a person but I can say that it helps your confidence to a point. The thing is, I havent even ordered yet, but I am 95% sure I'm going to. I have been using Toppiks for 2 years and its time for a natural look that will restore my self esteem. But even with the Toppiks, as crappy as it looks most days, haha, gives me that confidence to walk out the door. Like you, I got into bodybuilding, and sweat at the gym, and I see people glance at my head, especially hairline, and notice something is off because Toppiks doesnt look all that natural. It kills me some days.
So, time for a change, Im tired of the daily routine of toppiks. I know it wont change my life by wearing hair, but it sounds like we can get our self esteem back if we feel we look good. And thats what this is all about right? We just want something that looks good, and real, so we dont have to think about it every damn day.

• Confidence through the roof (Why? Because I'm more youthful looking)
• I talk to chicks much more (Why? Because they all now seem more interested).
• I dress better (Why?  It makes you want to... it's like a kick start for improving your life).

My life has improved dramatically because of toplace. It's like losing weight... on the same lines of it... I lost 25 pounds and felt similar to how I felt when I put a TL on my head.

Xeon, you're my hero bro, my jaw is on the floor.

Funny ****!

You sure it's not the WaxWorks?

hell yeah its the wax works too. I slather that **** on my chest and biceps, I dont even use it for my hair

Xeon Iam so gullible I actually thought you were for real from ur first comment ahahahaha.

i love all my bald brothers and sisters here.but to keep it real..all of us are not equal..i am an old guy now 45 haha..debbies see's it all the time . its her business...many men need this boost to feel better about themselves....so if wearing a hair piece helps great it did for me in the begining...still helps alot..but my confidence level is high with a good rug or bad rug i am still bob/philly
bob

i've found wearing good looking appropriate hair really helped me alot.
i too spent a considerable amount of time in the weight room right before i started wearing hair. i got real buff and when i started wearing hair i found i was getting attention unlike i ever had before. it was weird because initially (when you start wearing) you're a bit self conscious about people staring so the attention while a great thing was a little weird. now i revel in the attention and have gained a tremendous amount of confidence in that i no longer feel like i am missing something (hair). i'm one of those folks who feels hair completes the anatomy of a face.
these days i play in a band and solo so obviously i dont think twice about all eyes being on me.
for me, the decision to wear hair was one of the best moves of my life.
you are better off being guided by the helpful folks in this forum instead of being railroaded by hcm like i did intitially. it was still better than thin hair but had i known about toplace at the time, i could have orchestrated the transition a whole heck of alot better.
if you are spendingtime masking or covering up, bite the bullet and try wearing hair. these folks wont steer you wrong. more to the point, i wouldnt lead a brother down the wrong road.

one last thing.
i'm 41 (soon to be 42) years old. i started thinning in my mid 20's and was always told i looked "older" than my actual age.
no lie, within the past 5 years of wearing hair, i have been "carded" (asked for proof of age) around 10 times and generally speaking when asked my age, people do not believe it when i tell them my actual age.
i dont think i look 21 but wearing hair has certainly dropped 10 years off my looks.

These responses are really starting to have me feeling hopeful. I watched one by one as the men in my family have been hit with early balding. Their personalites all did change for the worse. My mother has told me many times my father was never the same after his hair came out.

It's really cool that you guys did create this forum because I'm pretty sure most men who lose their hair feel really isolated.

I will order the DVD that was recommended. I not sure whether to wear just yet. I am a diffuse thinner so when I get my hair cut right and put enough junk in it many people will not notice how thin it is because I look pretty young. But If I switch to wearing hair a lot of people will know because the change will be obvious. I do believe bald discrimination is very real. I wonder if people will discriminate over hairpieces if they look good

Thanks again. I'm not sure what to expect just yet but I am feeling more hopeful.

Society looks down on guys with hair pieces?

IF that were true I would be scared to death to be outed. In fact I reveal I am wearing when hair comes up. I am proud of the way it looks. No one looks down on me becasue of my hair!!
Before I was married I dated women 15 and sometimes 20 years younger than I and married 10 years under ALL KNEW I wore a hairpiece before we began dating. All saw me without it on occasion.

My wife sees me without it a lot! LOL.

I waer because I believe I look better with it. I don't stress about it at all. (I should stress more though because I have gotten lazy and have been reminded by friends of "issues" LOL)

I forget it's there.

Someday I will stop wearing. Perhaps when Im totally retired who knows. I know one thing I would not be wearing if I had to pay a grand for a unit. I did not start wearing until I found internet sites and Toplace. Not becasue I cannot afford to pay $4000 a year for units. But becasue it's silly to pay that much for a total stranger's biological hair. That still seems strange to me. I wonder about the person who grew this hair sometimes. Who is it...What are they doing right now? How old were they when these hairs first peeked out of their scalp.........But I degress...

Wear hair because YOU like it without expectations. Don't trade anxieties. I would much rather deal with the anxiety of baldness then be constantly afraid of being outed.



"When you walk with a limp, you notice how other's walk"

>>I am proud of the way it looks. No one looks down on me becasue of my hair! Before I was married I dated women 15 and sometimes 20 years younger than I and married 10 years under ALL KNEW I wore a hairpiece before we began dating. All saw me without it on occasion.

I'm 36 and still dating women in their early 20's who know I wear.

I know a lot of women, and by now most of them know I wear, either because I told them or they heard it through the grapevine (never been busted to my knowledge) and it hasn't hindered my social life one bit.

And my male friends are 100% accepting of the fact that I wear.

>>Wear hair because YOU like it without expectations. Don't trade anxieties. I would much rather deal with the anxiety of baldness then be constantly afraid of being outed.

I guess I got lucky in that I DID have anxiety by the time I lost a substantial amount of hair, but as soon as I decided to shave my head the anxiety was all but gone.

But I agree. No point in trading anxieties. That's why as soon as I got my first full cap cut in and looking phenomenal, I decided to go public with it. I still haven't told everyone, but most of my friends know and it's a liberating feeling to know that I have nothing to hide.