Amazing isn't it. I go to a salon for privacy to try and have this done as subtly as possible. No one knows I am doing this execpt for one friend of mine who wears ( and no one knows he wears. I didn't even knew he wore, he is really good with his attatchement and he uses very good pieces. I kept it secret from everyone. I have been wearing a hat for the last two years and know one even knows I have been losing my hair. I showed a friend of mine right after i got the unit. She couldnt believe how young it made me look. Thought it was amazing. I came home with my unit on last night and showed girlfriend she was shocked (because we're working on the color (still having trouble getting the right color from toplace, which is something i guess we can work out thru time). Girlfriend gets up in the morning. right before I leave I tell her to make sure she keeps this between her and I. She says no problem. I called her at work today. She has already told several of her co-workers/friends of ours. I yelled.. quietly at first... what did i tell when you left this moring...her reply.. oh, thats what you meant.. well what do you want me to do about it I only told a couple of people, they won't tell anyone... Nothing like trust in a relationship eh...

LOL....I guess if you wanted to get even you could tell a few of your co-workers that your girlfriend has herpes or something. j/k

If she told her friends, that probably means she likes the way it looks! Women (God love 'em!) tell their friends EVERYTHING! Her friends probably know every private intimate detail about you, this is just one more. I've had a few very honest girlfriends who told me right from the start that any embarrasing things I do/say would be repeated to her friends, and have had platonic female friends tell me basically the same thing. Women talk to their friends about boyfriends the same way we talk about sports--it's just how they "bond." If your piece looks good, she's probably "bragging" to her friends about how good you look.

Well no Suds, I totally disagree with you unless you're talking about primary or high school girls.

There comes a time that with a certain amount of maturity, what goes on in a relationship stays private no matter what. This is what I call real bonding.

Hans

No one knows how your relationship is besides you and your girl because you are the only 2 people who know what the relationship consists of and how it is between the two of u, so advice etc won't do much good to you but based on your side of the story and what you have said there are 2 ways to think about this....

Either she is very proud of ur new look and transformation and wanted to "show you off" to her friends at work so they can see what a big difference it has made. Which isn't a good approach but her intentions were good.

Or

A mature person in a serious relationship would understand that it is a sensitive issue and keep it between both of you. It is obviously something that needs to be kept quiet or else why would you specifically say "keep this between us", that just reinforces the issue's privacy.

In my opinion she definitely needs to apologize and if I was in the situation I would ask her to tell her friends she was joking because u got a new haircut.

My gf saw nothing wrong with my hair b4 I took this route but supported me every step of the way because she knew I was self conscious about it. Her and I and my parents are the only ones that know. She would never tell anybody because she understands its personal.

You need to talk to her to make sure she understands what it means to you and that its a private thing..make sure she gets it

The women I were referring to were all over thirty. Maybe I'm unique, but from my experience women tell their friends everything, and love nothing more than to gossip about their boyfriends/husbands. I'm just trying to say don't let it discourage you, and if your new hair looks good, don't worry bout your girlfriend's friends.

She could possibly have told them in preparation of seeing you. Especially if it's dramatic. And maybe she didn't want to be embarrassed.

Yule B if you look good be proud,she may have been so impressed with how good it looked that she couldn't keep it to herself,if it's not for this reason,.....shoot her! just kidding, I beleive you learn every day in life,don't take it to heart,move on & just make sure that everytime you're with the people that know your wearing,your system looks 110% great & they won't ever think twice about it, You should use this situation to motivate yourself to to your advantage,from what posts I've read from you on this forum you appear to have a great sense of humor & it will get you far,It REALLY REALLY TAKES�@CERTAIN TYPE OF INDIVIDUAL TO WEAR! By ordering & wearing you are already on your way,I personally don't care if I am outed as I know I look amazing with it on & have outed myself a few times to make a point & when the time comes for me to get that face lift?...... count on it!Like Snipe said once on a former post of mine"I am one very vain & shallow person" we all are or we wouldn't be doing this,at the same time,I don't look anywhere near my 42yrs when I wear(more like 32 which is what I feel)when not wearing,I look more closer to 55yrs(no bull!) I take Pride in the fact that I do my best to look good & you do also!

It aint vain or shallow in my opinion, If your teeth are bad or busted you fix em, If your eyesight is bad you get glasses or contact lenses, You dont like the slaphead look you get hair, Simple as.

Regards BA.

Sorry to hear that Yule; you must be spitting blood to have your transition exposed so thoughtlessly after all the trouble you took to keep it under wraps.

I'm afraid I can't agree with the more upbeat posters. In my experience girls do not brag to their girlfriends about how good their boyfriend's hairpiece looks. That's just wishful thinking.
The reality is that for some people a guy wearing a rug (particularly a young not-bad-looking guy) is just too good a bit of gossip to leave alone. So much so that it overrides feelings of loyalty to the person concerned.

I definitely wouldn't advise you to go the "oh it was only a joke, he just got a new haircut" route. That will only make it worse and point up an insecurity on your part. Plus I have my doubts about whether your girlfriend could carry it off (no offence meant). You can't put the genie back in the bottle, but it will eventually more or less evaporate if you leave it alone.

Long before I came into this I made up my mind that I was doing this for me, not anyone else. I was bald for years so friends and relatives were going to know and I told everyone beforehand I was going to do it. I have not had one negative comment yet and everyone tells me I look better and years younger.

She probably was bragging how good you look. I would just tell her in the future to please not broadcast it because it isnt necessary.

YuleB,
It's important to remember that you didn't get outed for the normal reason---someone detected that you wear a hair piece and called you on it. You got outed because your girfriend thought you looked great!
John

Ted: exactly.

People are smoothing things out so much sometime (like: she told everyone else because you look so great) that it makes me wonder if they can live in 'reality'. A love partner who gossips about our hairpiece is a huge mistake that should never be repeated.

It's much more productive to be honest and upfront about life and see things like they are with a cold head and it's the only way to get ahead and tackle obstacles that are always sure to be around the corner from time to time.

Hans