I was wondering if it is possible to never get caught wearing a piece or is this something I will eventually have to accept happening. If I casually graze my hand through my hair I can not tell a thing at all. Now if I take my finger and feel for the border between the piece and my own hairline I can definintely feel that for sure. So unless someone wants to give me a scalp massage(which has been never) I am thinking I can get away with this and never confess. Could a guy wearing french lace fool them forever?
Hey, You will never really know because not everyone will tell you.
Another thing who really cares. I remember someone looked into my eye and said, do you wear contact lenses. I replied yes.
Be confident that you are doing the best you can to look great and take the advice here on the forum. If being outed is not
the worse thing in the world you will not be paranoid.
Thank God everyday that you don't have cancer and lose your hair that way! With this attitude remember it is only material with hair on it and it is an option you choose.
I've been wearing for 20+ years, I started before I was bald just very thin. My family does not know I wear, either does my son who is 10, someday I will tell them but for now I like to think of it as my own growing hair .
Like I said mate it is all in the attachment, In my home town I never cut corners or take chances and have never been busted, But thats because I know how important the attachment is.
If no one figures out that I am wearing than I not going to say a word to anyone. I was thinking along the lines of the ladies and whether or not I should be honest about it early on or not. If I can get away with it then I would rather keep it to myself.
My family just thinks I got a good hair cut as I have never exposed my hair line ever. As long as I dont show any hairline I believe I can do this. No hair piece regardless how good will fool my family If I have a hairline that I never had before. I do realize that I was getting the bald is beautiful discount at 10 yrs old so I need to restrict my hairstyles to ones that do not expose the hairline.
If I get caught I get caught but, If I can get awy with it then why not try
I went out with a woman for six months when my hair was half Toppik, and she never noticed. Not only that, but we boinked like crazed weasels constantly. I think that all that Toppik would be more obvious than a good Toplace hairpiece. She didn't touch my hair much, though. And maybe she knew, for all I know, but never told me.
I've had other girlfriends whose hands were all over my hair, and I find it hard to think that they wouldn't notice sooner or later. I even have female friends who are always touching my hair, which makes me nervous, or male friends who sometimes want to get in minor wrestling matches.
Using crunchy hair gel would make it less likely for someone to notice, I think by touch. A girl I dated for a short while a couple years back asked why I wear a lot of hair gel. I just told her that without it my hair turns into an afro. That was actually more or less true with my natural hair, when I had a lot of it, so if you're hair is wavy at all, you can probably get by with that explanation. If not, say that it gets frizzy otherwise.
As long as you have a ready, plausible answer, people will buy almost any reason you can give them. You just have to have your answers to these questions thought out in advance, so they don't seem like you're making them up.
Either that, or just say, "Yeah, baby, I wear a hairpiece, and ain't it a beauty!"
I get E-mail from people all the time who dont post on the forum but just read and they laugh at most on here who ponce about with thier hair, All of them tell me they just get a good cut in and a good blend with a combdown hairstyle and then there is no poncing about, They do have a point.
Same up to a point could be said for a full cap and the long hairstyle with non exposed hairline.
sometimes you've had a bad hair day, the piece begins to thin or you just haven't nailed the attachment right and somebody "suspects" something
thing is-in their mind-they think toupees look like Howard Cosell if they have no experience with them
I have absolutely studied the eyes of people that I'm sure have heard a rumor that I wear and when my hair is styled normally and looking good (I mean basically normal) they never look at my hair or hairline or say a thing
It just doesn't matter to most people. 2 things-don't try and look like Elvis and beware the jagoff that likes to be cruel-if HE (or she) suspects, you could have a problem no matter how good you look
The first day I wore my piece I went out to a bar and thought everyone was looking at my piece all the time. Now that I have some time under my belt I think about it less and less each day. The paranoia has worn off considerably since then so I am less concerned each day. I am not going to stop wearing so nothing will change for me. Being forever hair challenged since I can remember I am happy to buy what I can not grow myself. I wanted to be realistc about my expectations with wearing.
I just look at it like this, choose the option that works best. I finally ordered a TL, and when it comes, Ill be happy to wear it. Of course the paranoid side will be there but its nothing I dont go through now by having Toppiks in my head! It sux. Sure, I MIGHT look like I have more hair, and covers up the thin spots, but I still hate being in the sun, the rain, and sure as hell cant swim. AND ITS SUMMER TIME PEOPLE! haha.
So I will try to take it with a grain of salt. And from what it seems like, most of you havent been caught, and you enjoy life again. Get out, go swim, go to the beach or a water park. And don't look back on the days before we found TL.
All of them tell me they just get a good cut in and a good blend with a combdown hairstyle and then there is no poncing about, They do have a point.
They have a point if their natural hair texture is suitable for that approach. My natural hair texture is like brillo.
Also, they might be more concerned if they had friends who fiddle with their hair. A female friend of mine just last week in the middle of a dance floor at a club suddenly grabbed the hair on the back of my head and pulled hard. I have no idea if she did that because she suspects or because she has no idea. (She was demonstrating the saucy behavior of another couple there.)
The bottom line, I think, is that there is usually a workable solution to most of these issues. I mean some folk even go to the extreme of getting a hair pattern tatooed onto their heads in order to help with the blending. Now how's that for poncing!
OK, BA, will do. I listened to the tablets and the tablets told me:
With SFS lace and a good glue and using a seam roller on the back and sides, and some practice getting an exact alignment, you can get a virtually undetectable attachment, even to vigorous touching. I.e., you can virtually eliminate any detectable edge.
If one wants this level of undetectability every day, however, one has to be pretty vigilant about testing for any lift all around the unit every morning after showering and then doing a touch-up if necessary.
This may be too much "poncing" for many, but if you want to keep the secret from that new flame who loves to run his or her fingers through your soft silky Toplace hair, it can be done, and that is what it takes: daily, vigilant ponce.
If you are less vigilant, one day or another, their fingers will likely snag on an edge.
Alternatively, use a healthy dose of gel to dissuade Roman fingers and Russian hands.
Why do strangers approach you guys and touch your head ?
July 31 2008, 10:31 AM
Hmmm ... sounds like many guys on here have
a problem with strange men or women ...coming
out of the clear blue sky and coming up to them
with the desire-ous intention of wanting to touch
or rub their scalp ...
Is it because your hair looks so natural that
they want to pet and stroke the furry beast ..
- or to simply steal it away and play catch with it
- maybe rub it for good luck ....
- or maybe they're checking for a
cootie infestation ?
Could be ...it's my paranoia ... due to having
grown up in a mob run italian neighborhood ...
but whenever a hand came close to my head ...
whether it was a mob guy or Franciscan priest
... their only intention was to knock my lights
out and rattle my brain
... that I learned to duck ....!
So I'm not worrying about the 'rub test' ... but
on the other hand ... if Angelina Jolie knocked
at my door .. and wanted to rub something ...
well ... I'm a very hospitable guy ... and I would
certainly just want to be neighborly !
I might as well chime in here. The chances are loads of people know you wear a wig but are too polite to say. A way to tell if people know you're thatched is if they conspicuously never talk about hair around you.
My cousin William was butchered by that
tv hair place in Pittsburgh that does all the
infomercials when he went to them about
10 years ago ...
At family functions .. everyone sees
Bills head .. and you can see the immediate
reaction on their face ...
like their eyes are glued to his scalp ..
but no one says anything directly about
the scary, unnatural doll-like, sutchered
.. zulu hair plugged into his dome ...
Of course, Bill's brother is openly gay ...
I mean .. comically so ... and Bobby shows
up also at family function dragging along
his boytoy of the week ...
.. and my family acts like
he is as 'straight as an arrow'
Matter of fact, they will not even entertain the
fact that he is gay ... Talk about denial
(Wait .. isn't that a river in Egypt)
Of course, I worked with this guy Chris
a number of years back .. who had such thick,
luxurious naturally wavy hair
(or so ..we think .. it was real)
.. that everyone THOUGHT it was a toupee
... and EVERYONE .. I mean ... EVERYONE ..
in the company would take their turn standing
behind him and look for attachments .. or something ..
I still just wonder ....
This message has been edited by countdevio on Jul 31, 2008 12:18 PM
Barry: no offense but I think only people who haven't got this hair wearing thing down say these kinds of things...if loads of people know you wear then YOU are doing something wrong...I can understand close family knowing but otehr than that there really shouldn't be a reason why anyone else knows.
Absolutly 100% spot on Mo, If people other than close family know you are definetly doing something wrong, I actually sent the photo below to my sister to explain what Jill the ventilator does, But she replied "Im confused I thought you wore a wig" Joe public just dont think you can have a hairline like that on a wig.
I been wearing for at least 6 or 7 years now, I dont even remember. but im pretty confident to say that the only two people who know are my mom and gf. rest of my family friends etc. Even my father dont know. As long as you attach like BA said the right way and dont have anything really off.. chances are no one will know. Not unless they have a good reason to find out. Whether it has to do with you going from balding to a mop of head, or something that really looks off. I know there is always a chance to get caught and u have to learn to deal with that risk factor. But so far, It really has not been a concern of mine
Barry: if that's the case with you, get in front of a mirror because you have a workload to do
Xeon: I agree, other than our mom and our lover, nobody else should know. Wearing hair just like it would be our own is much more fun and rewarding. Why would we have put so much work into this only to let other people know that it's not our hair ?
Hans
This message has been edited by Hansmtl on Jul 31, 2008 2:33 PM
i hear ya.. the honest truth is that it was my gfs idea. she found some site called loriswigshop rofl. and it got me curious so i started searching online and found coolpiece. Then later toplace. and others .
yes u will get caught maybe so what better to look great 99% of the time then a total slaphead 365 days a year imo
bob /philly
guys with a nice piece look dam good
In my experience of wearing hair for a few years now, it is highly unlikely that you will be "caught" in any ordinary situation IF you take care to get a good attachment, cut in, and style. There are very few ways you could be "totally exposed", you could get in a fight and have it ripped from your head - this has been reported. You could have an auto or other accident with head injury etc, which has happened. You could have someone dump a gallon of alcohol on your head - haven't heard of that happening though.
Other accidents have happened because of poor attachment. One lady reported her wig came off while swimming in the ocean, the white glue attachment was days old and not waterproof. Heavy sweating can loosen some bonds, most have to try a few glues & tapes to see what works.
Other than these "catastrophic" events, the other ways of being spotted are more subtle. It generally would take someone "clued up" about hair systems to notice anything, again provided that you have a decent cut-in, style and attachment. Coloring would be the most obvious thing, I have had someone ask if I dyed my hair because they saw reddish overtones. This was a female who dyed her own hair, she had the same kind of red tones so that's why she noticed it.
BUT, the main thing IMHO is, people who know you as bald or balding will definitely know you've "done something." That's the biggest hurdle for most of us. A lot of young guys here have avoided this, going from concealors and "camouflaged" styles to a system with no one being the wiser. Those of us who waited till we're obviously bald/balding/receded have to face this fact. In my experience, as long as it looks good folks don't care. The few friends who I told what it was could not believe it, they thought it was transplants because it looks like it's growing from the scalp.
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