Hello Leileia,
Welcome to the message board. I admire your courage!
You have reached what I call the "golden point." I say this because you have come to the realization that you do need help, and that PMS/PMDD is not just something that can be ignored or brushed-off as 'normal'. This is a most crucial aspect in successfully treating the condition, i.e. self-awareness. By your affirmative statements you have opened your own doors to healing.
And, I agree with your sentiments about doctors 100%! It is very important to get 2nd or even 3rd opinions, especially when the 1st opinion was just a weak attempt at passing off pills without thoroughly discussing symptoms, and doing a thorough medical check-up to see if there might be any underlying medical problems which could be exacerbating or causing symptoms.
All the best, and please continue posting.
Anthea