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I was just tripping through here on my way to the spouse board and saw your post.
I can't really comment on your PMDD, I obviously don't suffer from it (directly - Ha) but I can perhaps offer some words of advice on how to deal with your spouse. If you have tried this, well, ignore me if it didn't work for you.
I became the spouse of a woman with PMDD because I love her. Its almost impossible to not recognize that your spouse has a problem if she does in fact have PMDD. I'm willing to bet that most husbands are aware of a problem - they may not know WHAT problem, but you'd have to have your head in the sand to not see that SOMETHING out of the ordinary is going on. What helps me support her is a little honest communication, because, as her spouse, I loved her enough to marry her and I am concerned about her health/mental health. I am basically pre-wired to forgive her for out of the ordinary things. I'm basically pre-wired to trust her. I'm pre-wired to want to help her. Why? Because I really, really want to be able to do so.
The biggest thing that helped for me, was when my wife sat down and actually told me what was going on with her. I know there's a lot of denial, control issues, etc. that go along with this, but if you want your husband to be happier and more supportive - tell him, honestly and truthfully what is going on with you, AND how you plan to take action to solve the problem. Even if your plan sucks at this point. Even if it doesn't work - that should be enough to show him you mean it.
I wish you luck, and him luck. I know how much this sucks for the both of you. I can't tell you how much easier this would have all been to take, if my wife had just been up front about what was going on in the first place instead of trying to hide it for years (it wasn't working anyways).
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