(...only this first page though :/ as it seemed to take care of all my concerns
A brilliant forum. I feel more comfortable now from one day of reading on this site than I have in 18 years of telling myself to just "deal with it". Wonderful information. I see that my foreskin isn't at tight as some pictures I saw by one poster. And also, the part of my glans that does get exposed isn't painfully sensitive either. I touched it earlier just to check and I didn't cringe. Though, it was a different sensation than I'm used to.
And it's good to know that the stretches are supposed to feel "strange"/uncomfortable.
Figured, after reading some of the other stuff, I should point out that I'm not trying to work my way to unprotected or promiscuous sex. (See, you know how guys tend to differentiate between girls they want to have sex with and ones they want to be in a relationship with? It might seem weird, but casual sex has never really interested me. Simply because it's capable of happening with any female and not very exciting to me. And the ones that I like I want to forge something deeper with. Not just sex.) But I do want to make sure I'm fully functioning to be comfortable.
At this point now, I'm just looking for some confirmation to help me feel comfortable:
If I do all the stretches for inordinate amounts of time, and pass "the balloon test"- which I just did, and believe I have passed as everything puffed out immediately and I released the pinch once I saw it puff out around the entire top and sides of the glans (couldn't really look at the bottom of it since I was standing, but I assume it too is fine, right?) due to fearing the urine would travel up the shaft and get stuck or feel painful or mess something up
? Is that ok or am i supposed to let it travel all the way ?
So from what I gather my issue is the opening not being stretched.
And that frenelum stretching can benefit anyone too. So that's good.
I've also found it that it's my fault.
A few years back (2004 I believe) I was sent to a urologist by a GP due to a strange "not feeling done" sensation when urinating... They said I had a UTI (not sure how. I definitely wasn't active at age 11.) Gave me some medicine. And took care of an unrelated issue that I'm only now realizing... he gave me some ointment. He told me to pull my skin back as far as I could and apply it to the "ring of skin there", because when he went to do the exam I wasn't able to retract (from what I've come to learn here on this site). He then told my dad if "that doesn't take care of things we'll need to set up a circumcision".
For some strange reason I've always kept that ointment buried in a cupboard just in case the UTI feelings ever returned (see, the retraction thing, or the reason behind the ointment wasn't explained to me so I always assumed that is what cured my infection). And I took a look at it a few hours ago. Guess what it is? Yep, clotrimazole and BETAMETHASONE dipropionate. It all makes sense now. And I wish I would've know what to do properly then. I wish it would've been explained to me properly.
I had only applied a few times until the UTI feelings went away. Then stopped. Because, again, I didn't know. But it makes sense now that I'm able to pull it back a little farther now than I was able to back in the day.
Well, my embarrassment comes from just seeing others in locker rooms or urinals or whatever and noticing that I was looking different.
Then, (I went to a Christian school my entire life) I remember in 7th grade Bible class in particular the teacher essentially spent an entire days lesson on circumcision, and how that's what God's men are meant to do, and that being uncircumcised is "unclean". Stuff like that. After his explanation of foreskin it was obvious to me why I looked different. I always avoided using urinals around others without the "hand curtain" after that.
Now, as to my location- I'm located in the USA
Born and raised in the 'Bible belt' actually.
My parents (and fathers immediate family) came over from England, and we've got most of the family there or in California so my vocabulary definitely comes from that since parents, uncles, other close family and friends and what not speak like that. Though, I don't have an accent. People here where I live always ask me if I'm from "up north" since I don't have a southern accent either. Due to all that and visits there and the like European culture been a pretty big part of my life. I call car trunks "boots", the only sport I can stand to watch is soccer... and the biggest is that I'm actually of producer of drum n' bass and other forms edm music that stronghold in Europe :O.
What makes it weirder is that I'm of east indian descent.
An indian guy, born and living in the Bible belt, but ultimately working and rooted in european culture.
It's all very strange, I know :P.