I did point out below that not having had sex previously, we might hope
that you would likewise find a girl who was similarly sexually in
experienced and that before
becoming sexually involved you might "tick all the boxes" that favour her as your only
, lifetime partner.
This is always
a very worthy and valuable goal in itself, and should be your expectation
of a relationship - even
if you do not hold it as a priority in your religious faith. And even if it does not
turn out that way in the event, it is still the case that a genuine
relationship does not involve either party making any
"judgements" on the other's sexual attributes but is rather a detailed and progressive learning
experience as such things are discovered
part by part. That
is what "comfort" is.
It goes both ways. It appears to be not uncommon for boys (or "men") to criticise women's labia as being too "long" or "dangly" or "ugly" when they do not conform to what is (for the most
perverse reasons indeed to do with censorship) more commonly depicted in pornography, despite
the fact that these are functionally analagous to the foreskin and clearly would not exist unless they similarly served a valuable purpose. Clearly pornography is a particularly
corrosive factor which makes relationships vastly
more difficult and unstable, and should always be viewed with a attitude of the most critical review if it cannot practically be avoided.
So I say - any tendency to feel uncomfortable
in a relationship does not by any means whatsoever reflect on your
particular anatomy, but instead is your conscience pricking you that you have perhaps mot made the most sensible choice of a potential spouse and - what are you going to do then? The actual
worry is rather that she could know
some "ordinary" of which to be "out".