I'm now 16, and have never fully seen the head of my penis. I cannot retract it very far at all, erect or flacid. I've been looking through the posts Jim has replied to, and your methods seem successful. I was wondering Jim, could you give me a #detailed guide' as it were, of the stretches, and which ones you reccomend. In The pictures you use, me penis looks pretty much like them, if it help ^o). (Asin the Foreskin at the top) Thanks for your help.
P.s. This has made me shy around girls, and it isn't too good, as i have had many crushes, and i feel this is holding me back, as i'm scared about it.
What I'm going to say here is, that if this little concern with your foreskin causes you to be shy around girls, then - you've got a problem, and it isnot your foreskin at all.
Two things you need to understand - girls - at least the ones that are worth getting to know - do not expect you to "perform" sexually. At least, not in the way you probably think - you are assuming that girls see things as boys do, and - they donot at all! Your notion therefore, that you will have some problem "using" your penis, is based in wrong expectations.
Secondly, relationships with girls are based on exchange - something you may not realise; it involves talking to them and explaining yourself. This means that if you have a difficulty, then you have something to discuss with a girl, should you get that intimate, and that is likely to prove more of a "bonding" point than a disadvantage. Honesty counts - in the real world - more than perfection.
To repeat one of my favourite(?) points - if your foreskin were to hurt during intercourse - it may or may not and indeed is more likely to do so as you are part way through the stretching process as it becomes just able to retract - then it indicates you are doing something wrong and almost certainly hurting the girl as much as yourself. Enjoyable intercourse is gentle and requires lubrication - something that girls only produce when, and as long as they continue to be sexually excited and that, as much by who you are, as by having sex.
It is for that reason that artificial lubricants are so necessary, to "fill in the gaps" when the excitement is lost. But if you are slow and gentle, and making sure she remains lubricated, there will not be the force such as to force your foreskin back, though you will certainly feel her squeeze.
We will take it "as read", and have yet to hear otherwise, that you can masturbate with no problems or discomfort at all. That being the case, you need not expect intercourse to be a problem onceyougetthebasicsright !
If you know and understand all this, you will realise that this little problem is really, not related at all to relationships with girls. Either you forget about it and go and make some friends with whatever consequences follow, or you realise you have a much different problem, and attend to it accordingly (and independently of the stretching).
July 7 2004, 1:10 AM
Good point. It's talking that i find the 'difficult' bit. I'm fine around boys, cracking jokes, making people laugh and what have you, but when a girl joins, i just go all quite, and can't think of anything to say. I just go well dam shy, which is a pain in the bottom. this probably sounds stupid, but i don't feel the need to talk to her, as i feel just being near her is good enough, but when i want to talk to her, i can't think of anything to say! Also, i have a fair few spots on my face, which doens't help much at all. whats the easiesst way of getting rid of them!?
You may be feeling shy because you actually have feelings for this girl. Just try to relax and not act smart. Asking questions often opens up the dialogue. You could try asking about the last movie she saw, or what kind of music she likes to listen to. Ask her to tell you about it. That opens the possibility of making a date to see another movie or to listen to music together.
Frankly, I had spots too, and didn't let them worry me much. Other kids had them too, so I figured it was just part of growing up. Keep your face clean, watch your diet, get plenty of rest, and drink lots of water. There are some preparations your doctor can prescribe, but one taken orally has had some severe side effects, so you might be better off just waiting till you grow out of it.
I'm glad you're starting on the program. You should see some minor results this week, but don't get in a hurry and try to stretch too hard. It will take about two to three months to see results that matter.
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