Right, we now have a fair amount of detail. Jim is puzzled, but if I may summarise your situation, you used to be able to pull back your foreskin and view
the tip of the head, but not the whole of the head, and thereby presumed that was as far as it was supposed to go - which is just like looking at a woman's clitoris. I am of course most curious to know - have you actually
had the opportunity to examine a lady's genitalia, which in a fashion asks, have you had sexual experience with a woman? My suspicion would be that you have not, nor have you actually looked at pictures
of men's penes (plural of penis) until now, else you would likely have determined earlier that it should be possible to expose the whole head.
"Mucus in the urine" is a rather curious description of a urinary tract problem; could you elaborate on that a bit, including the "Urologist"s observations on it, and what treatment he might have prescribed?
As to the diabetes, that is
a major problem indeed. Diabetes of this nature in the absence
of obesity is a feature of certain racial groups, and I suspect that not only does it "run" in your family, but is perhaps very well known in their community overall. Or perhaps not. Whilst it has been diagnosed in your case, on a urine test, full assessment and all future management is based on blood
testing, mostly home testing using finger-prick samples. The reason is that if you do
have sugar in your urine, that represents a very bad
level of sugar in the blood - proper management of diabetes should and will be directed at ensuring you never
have sugar in your urine.
Frankly, there is as I explained before, a great danger in visiting a "Urologist", especially in America, because he is specifically, a surgeon
whose "business" is performing operations. Whilst he of course knows in broad terms what diabetes is
, it is most
unlikely that he knows much at all
about its management, so what you need to do right now, if he has not already instructed you to do so, is to find a doctor competent in the management of diabetes, which could be a specialist (endocrine physician) or a General Practitioner (Family Physician). I think you could very safely forget entirely about the Urologist - and his operations.
You have described a degree of "ballooning" of the foreskin - it blows up like a balloon in front of the glans (penis head) because the foreskin opening is tight. That does
represent a significant problem and it is not surprising that the Urologist has recommended a circumcision. The proper
treatment of this will be to bring the diabetes under control and there is some urgency to this - it is
almost certainly consequential to the unchecked diabetes.
Now the manner
in which it occurs, is again, almost certainly the development of a fungal ("thrush") infection of the (inside) foreskin because the fungus thrives on - sugar! I think therefore, we can safely suggest you proceed to treat the infection with an "over-the-counter" medication and whilst there are many to choose from, I generally suggest Daktarin® or better still, Daktacort® cream (note - I have no shares in the company!).
You will actually need to get it inside
the foreskin space in front of the glans, because the infection is on the inside. And we know that the foreskin is already narrowed. What will likely be most effective, a couple of times a day after you have urinated and squeezed out the last of the urine from under the foreskin, would be to see how accurately you can insert the nozzle of the tube (with due care about the rough edges; even better if it has an applicator nozzle) a little into the foreskin opening (whilst pulling the foreskin forward, preferably with two fingers from each hand on either side) and squirt just a little of the cream inside the foreskin space. You will not need much at all, and whatever remains on the outside can be left there; the cream inside will leak out anyway.
After using this for a couple of days, you should for one thing, notice less discomfort, less "ballooning", and may then be able to start stretching, both by pulling back the foreskin against an erection, and by picking up
the foreskin on both sides and pulling it open.
Over to you!