I'm new here and this is my first post. I'm 25 and I found out about 3 years ago that I was not normal. I think I have what is normal phimosis, although I did have a scary incident of paraphimosis I think. It is really embarrassing to share it here but I figured I need to in order to heal myself.
All my life, I thought I had a normal penis. I could masturbate alright and it was fine. But one day, when I wanted to have sex with my first girlfriend, the skin retracted and it got stuck behind the glans. The glans was really sensitive and it hurt a lot. I went to the doctor and he fixed it for me - he pulled the skin back over the glans. Ever since then, whenever I have an erection, the skin does not retract. I can see the glans, maybe a few centimetres diameter but not too much.
I was so ashamed of myself that I ignored it for years. I did not want to deal with it. I cried all the time because I felt so emasculated. But now, I must face up to it. And seeing all these stories and non-surgical methods, I must try it.
Can anyone please, help me with this problem? What are those stretching exercises you talk about and how can it be done? I need major help to turn my life around.
The first step in any recovery program is the admission of the problem. You've already done that, and now you're seeking help. That's a major step in realizing success in your efforts. Just continue with the rest of the steps that include daily stretching. Believe you'll overcome this and you will.
Re: I found out but I"m afraid to do anything - need advice and comfort
February 4 2007, 5:00 PM
Ron ... I believe Jim meant to suggest that you peruse the messages below for information about the stretching methods which are recommended. Take the time to go through the various threads of inquiry and you will find examples in abundance.
Nevertheless, a favorite scheme is to pull out on your foreskin with your fingers and hold that "stretch" for up to five minutes. Additionally, the process will be speeded up when you are able to put a finger or two inside the foreskin and stretch the opening at right angles to your penile shaft, as though you were holding open a plastic sack.
At your convenience, repeat the stretching exercise several times each day. Make a habit of it ... say in the morning and evening, and it will become second nature.
Stretch only to the point of discomfort, not beyond. The process encourages the growth of new skin cells, which means that it will take time, so have patience.
On a personal level, let me say that I once had feelings of shame similar to yours, when I discovered that I should be able to retract. Had I known that, worldwide, millions of men were in the same boat as me, I might have relaxed a bit and figured out a way to solve the problem, short of genital mutilation. Fortunately for you, there is now an internet, and, in particular, this site.
In short, you have found your natural home, and before long you will be well on your way to realizing a fully functional foreskin. It only takes time and effort.
Bart91 (no login)
Yeah I do it again now
February 6 2007, 9:31 AM
I often find the time and desire to work on it in our period of time. I'm exactly doing what you're saying. At the beginning, the foreskin was expanding itself a lot, but now I found the point where there is a sort of little circle of skin in the foreskin, which is very stronger than the others parts. It seems that it's this one that is responsible of the phimosis. I hope I could succeed. But I think that, like a lot of men here, I'm a little afraid to walk this way where I've never walked before, and wondering a lot.
OK, so don't forget you have thumbs. If you can get your thumb in, then use it a while, them move on to your two little finger tips together.
Doug's diagram is a little bit stylised and implies a stage wide enough for the fingers to be held apart, but does illustrate the concept of "hooking" the fingers through the tight area so that they do not slip out so easily, which helps you to hold this "pose" for relatively long periods.
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