Hi ive been looking at this website for a while now. I have phimosis and i cant retract my foreskin when flacid or erect i went to my docotr a while ago and he gave me some betnovate o.1% and ive stretching for about 2 or 3 weeks now and seen a bit of progress but nothing big. Im wondering if im doing anything wrong i have been stretching straight after using the cream does this mean i will be rubbing the cream off? This is also really getting me down i dont want to have a relationship with anyone until i get it sorted. Its also really not doing well for my confidence overall.

Where are you applying the ointment or cream? What are you stretching and how? How often do you stretch and for how long? How much progress have you had?

If you are massaging the substance into the skin, you are probably not rubbing it off by stretching, but you could certainly try altering your timing to see if you get better results.

Your name ("handle", "tag") is familiar but I am not in a position to research it just now.

I would have thought you would have found my previous answers to these points, but in short, you should stretch first, then use the cream in order not to rub it off. It is not to be used for the purpose of lubrication. It is the right one however (perhaps not the optimum form but ...).

Do explain which method you are using - in detail if you please.

And I've explained the relationship matter quite recently - did you not see?

Ive been using 1 finger on each hand and using them to stretch the opening of the foreskin by putting the fingers inside and stretching outwards.

Now, how often are you doing this? How long does each stretching session last? How far could you retract before you started stretching. How far can you retract now? Did you read Paul's answer, and are you doing that?

OK, sounds good. With the exception that you should do the stretching first on each occasion, and then apply the ointment or cream, just a tiny bit and specifically to the tight part, then you would seem to be doing the right thing. And if you can see some progress in two or three weeks, and are sure of this, then that's not bad either.

Please remember that if you can't retract your foreskin even when flaccid, then you almost certainly have a short frænulum and need to do the exercise for that as well as the "two fingers inside". Of course, you need to do both as often and for as long as you can (whilst doing something else worthwhile - reading a book, watching TV or whatever), If you have to move your hands to turn a page, then that's probably as good a time as any to give your fingers a momentary "rest".

So as I always say, you have plenty of time to get this in order. But I do want to know what it is you think you might not be able to do on account of the "phimosis" - the inability to retract your foreskin? I'm dead sure you have no trouble whatsoever pleasuring yourself in masturbation and "coming". I'm particularly curious therefore as to why you would see this as having any connection with having a girlfriend, because I cannot see why it would matter?

Thanks for the feedback guys. Well before i started stretching i could only just see the tip of the glans now after a while of stretching is goes down about half way on the glans but feels tight. Yes i now realise i have a short frenulum which i think is stopping me pulling the foreskin back the fully. Problem is i didnt realise this untill the other week so i hadnt been stretching it now im going to put alot of effort into stretching both. I really need to pull my foreskin back before i try to get in the raf.

The reason phimosis gets me down is because I know most girls probably dont even know what it is. Most are just use to penis's where the foreskin goes back fully unlike mine. I have no problem with masterbation and coming and it is pleasurable but like i said im going to try and get in the raf soon and i want to be able to retract my foreskin for hygeine purposes. I have loads of free time at the moment so I have no excuse for not stretching enough. Heres what im going to do from now on, stretch on a morning for 5 mins using the method i said before followed by 5 mins stretching the frenulum and then I will apply some of the steroid cream. I will then do all this again later in the day. Is that enough or should i do more?

Why not make good use of all the free time by stretching even more often? You could do it four times a day, couldn't you?

Yes I could stretch about 4 times a day i just didnt know if you were suppose to stretch too often. But after reading things on this forum ive learnt alot more im determined to get this sorted in the next 6 weeks before college starts again.

The principle used in loosening tight foreskins is the same one used on burn patients. In the case of the burn patients, tension is applied constantly. You can do the same.

Through the use of a device, specially designed and crafted to fit your anatomy, you could apply tension 24 hrs per day. Some guys visting here have cleverly adapted skin tunnels to do the job. They're inexpensive and available in a wide variety of sizes, and guess what. They're made just so a hole could be expanded.

If you choose this avenue, find some with very smooth edges, and make sure they can be cleaned. Check them regularly for undue pressure and and irritation to the tissue.

I was having sex before i even realised i had phimosis, if you are having sex with someone for the first time im hoping you will be using a condom trust me they either wont notice or wont be bothered by it.

Yes, well of course I probably have a different "slant" on relationships with "girls", and don't view such a matter in terms of being concerned lest they be critical of some inconsequential aspect of anatomy such as a foreskin. If any girl were, I would see that as an immediate demonstration that they are not a "keeper", but a "loser". I am therefore concerned that if you see that as a problem of any significance, you might seem to have an underlying personality problem.

Note of course, that I say "critical of". I might in the first instance be just a little surprised if they were to notice such a detail, as in some ways this implies knowing rather "too much" - being too familiar with men's anatomy in a practical sense.

Given that the young lady did make the observation that it was unusual, one might reasonably expect her in the first place to be curious and ask for some explanation. Next, you might expect her to ask you about function, and finally, enquire as to whether she might be able to help you with your efforts to remedy the situation.

This would be the general course of a "serious" relationship - but is this not what you are seeking?

I was a little puzzled about your reference to "getting in the raf". Are you presumably meaning the RAF? I am wondering what the connection could possibly be with your foreskin, and also what you mean by "hygeine(sic.) purposes"?

Well this week ive seen some real progress ive been stretching about 4 times a day for about 10 mins each time and yesterday i nearly pulled my foreskin back when flacid i think i could have pulled it back the whole way but i was scared of it getting stuck. I didnt feel no pain also ive been stretching the frenulum and its not as tight now.

Reports such as yours keep us going. I'm glad you're finding success.

Well it gets better today i pulled my foreskin back fully when flacid. Im so glad ive finally pulled it back flacid next is trying when erect. But for now i'll just keep stretching. Thanks to everyone has given me advise on here.