first of all, apologies for my spelling and grammar conduct since i'm not a native english speaker. here's what's been bothering me.
i have started to retract the forskin during masturbation rather late, say at the age of 14. now i'm almost 26 and the forskin still covers the glans when i have an eraction but i have no troubles what so ever to pull it down until the whole glans gets visible.the problem is that i can not go much further when my penis is fully erected. there is a sort of a ring of foreskin under the glans and when i try to pull it hard it hurts a bit and the glans gets a bit swallen. during the intercorse i don't feel any pain but the process of penetrating my new girlfriends vagina wich is really tight, can be painful due to my foreskin or frenulum not being flexible or long enough. i'm worried that the frenulum might get torn. does the stretching help or do i need a medical treatment. what would happen if it would tear (pain, blood....????
i am really worried and scared about this and this forum has already been really helpfull and i woulg highly apreciate your reply.
However, if you wish for the skin to retract further, you'll have to work on lengthening the frenulum. If you can grasp each end of it so that it can be stretched taut, do that. It's a bit hard to do that, but if you work at it, you should be able to figure it out. Otherwise, about the only thing you can do is this:
Be sure to use plenty of lubrication during sexual relations.
vlad (no login)
Re: It sounds pretty normal
August 25 2008, 3:09 AM
thanks a lot. its really sad how we are uneducated on such a normal and usual condition. in serbia (where i come from) nobody is circumsised. i would like to avoid it as many other people i know would but making a human penis a taboo subject won't help much. its amasing how we are able to comunicate openly on those subjects on this forum. thanks a lot.
Now, let's look at your points, but I venture to say, perhaps in ways you haven't thought about.
Having your foreskin still covering your glans when you get an erection is a variant of normal. So is having your foreskin retract when you get an erection.
The narrowest part of your penis (and there are plenty of pictures around on the 'net to show this) is usually just behind your corona - the back of the glans, so naturally, the tight part of the foreskin tends to lodge here when you pull it back - the "ring of foreskin" you describe. This indicates that your foreskin is generally a little tight and you need to do the outward stretching to improve this.
The fact that penetration but not continuation in intercourse indicates a couple of things. It does suggest that your frænulum is tight/ short and could use stretching as Jim describes, but it also indicates that your "new" girlfriend is not sufficiently "wet" (lubricated) at that point which means you have to pay more attention to her readiness - verifying that her vulva is all wet and slippery to your touch because you have been "making out" (pleasuring her - foreplay) - before you attempt to enter her, and that you need to do so much more slowly and gently. You may need to try an "artificial" lubricant - the stuff you buy at the shop where you get condoms - to help though it is better if you can simply get her enthusiastic enough to be nice and wet.
I know I harp on this but sadly, it is important. You refer to a "new" girlfriend and this makes me wonder whether you are saying you have not had intercourse before, or she has not, or neither of you have. Unless neither of you have had intercourse with anyone else - ever - then you need to be using condoms because the one who has had intercourse with someone else could have an infection - such as HPV; Human Papilloma Virus or "wart virus" - which he or she would most likely have no idea whatsoever that he or she was carrying, but which you should make every attempt to avoid passing on - simply because that is how such things are spread - without "knowing".
And if you are not using condoms, then you really must be confident in what form of birth control she is using, such as the Implanon® implant, because all other means of birth control have a failure rate. Unless is is your actual and serious intention to become a father.
Yes, if you penetrate her in such a manner that it is painful, you could tear your frænulum. Here's the interesting part: You refer to her as your "new" girlfriend, if she has not had intercourse before, she may have a hymen (though it is usually stretched by the use of tampons) which may itself be torn by rough intercourse. The situation is then the same for both of you - if you tear a frænulum or hymen, it may bleed, possibly quite dramatically. In both cases, it will almost always heal, but may tear again with further sexual activity, and again heal. That's just how it is, and there is no actual drama beyond that. Of course, for girls, bleeding is a part of life, and accordingly they are likely to make far less fuss about it!
So I'd say you need to start work seriously on both forms of stretching described here.
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