Dear Jim and Paul,
First of all thank you for supporting this forum as its very informative and motivating for the vast majority of its readers.
I have read a lot of posts in this forum trying to figure out the proper direction for my story and I decided to post this topic anyway as there are some black holes in my knowledge of this subject and hopefully by taking a more general approach this topic may clear things for other readers as well.
As you have pointed out there are some "popular" websites on the net that are offering some incorrect approaches on the topic of Short Frenulum. But as most of the pictures used on this forum are from www.foreskin.org let us look at one particular set of pictures (which I think creates the most confusion) to decide what is the best case scenario - which we shall try to reach with various methods (stretching etc). This link - http://www.foreskin.org/3zones-c.htm
- illustrates 5 pictures of foreskin retraction. I would be very thankful if you could comment on picture 4 and 5. Shall the foreskin go that back (especially like on 5) and shall the stretching be continued until that kind of result is reached.
The answer to this question makes clear many things.
I am 25 years old and I have had a normal sex life. In all of my relations I used condom and I didn't have any discomforts or anything. However, recently I had sex without condom and I ended up with a slightly scratched frenulum. I found about it in the shower the next morning so there was no bleeding or pain when it actually happened. I let it heal a bit but the next time I had sex I felt something was not right during the intercourse and I tried to be extra careful, but I ended up tearing it a bit.
So I did research the matter on the net and found out that short frenulum is the reason for this tear. As it is outlined in almost every post in this topic - stretching is the key. However, I would like to understand some of the mechanics in detail to decide the most appropriate treatment for my case and as you may have guessed we all consider our cases special :D.
To add some more detail into my case,I can retract my foreskin without problems or discomfort just behind my glans (picture 3 on previous link). Also I would like to point out that my frenulum starts right after the pee hole, unlike on this picture - http://www.foreskin.org
/ 46-33-11.jpg (picture number 11) - where frenulum is attached to the bottom part of the glans. As a result when forcefully retracted even further (picture 4 on previous link, but not that far) the shape of glance and my pee hole is changed and they are pulled forward. First of all it doesn't look nice, second it closes the canal during ejaculation if in certain position (and I think that may be a problem when I decide to have children (?)). It looks much like this one when applying force - http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Frenulum_breve
(the picture on right).
I have visited local urologist just in case to get some advice and he told me that there are 3 ways to treat this condition. Surgery (frenuloplasty), stretching with creams and a combination of stretching/cream/special device(o_O) that hastens things up. I had a chat with him on how the stretching or that special treatment actually works and he said that the frenulum is lengthened by around 3-5 milimeters and that it somehow(?) becomes much more elastic after the procedure. Now, that would have been the solution if my frenulum started a bit further down the glans (maybe it would not have been a problem at all and I wouldn't have torn it), but when it starts so high I do not really think that increase in length will change anything and during the intercourse it will stretch anyway (but not enough) and it may tear again and it will definitely bend down glans and close pee hole anyway, 5mm + or - shall not be changing that much.
I told him all this and he said that that will not happen and everything will be "OK".
To be honest I am not convinced...
Now, back to you guys, what could you comment on this not so short story and what would you recommend. Is ordinary stretching techniques that are suggested throughout this forum enough ? or frenuloplasty may be a better solution ?
Thank you in advance,