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April 30 2009 at 7:51 PM
Dom  (no login)

Hey all, It's so calming to see so many people with the same problems as myself.

Over the last couple months, I have succesfully stretched my foreskin enough for full retraction when flaccid and erect. My glans is still very sensitive and red/purple right at the starting ridge of the glans, is this normal?

Also, I had sex for the first time last week, and when left erect and retracted for an extended amount of time, my glans goes somewhat numb and grows in size. Of course afterwards I roll the foreskin back and everything seems back to normal. I believe this is paraphimosis correct?

Anyways, are there any quick ways to reduce the hypersensitivity on my glans? How do I continue stretching so that erections dont cause tightness and trap the blood?

Thanks in advance,


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It worked!

May 1 2009, 7:16 AM 

Yes, it's normal for your glans to be sensitive. Why do you wish to change it?

No, I wouldn't call that paraphimosis, but it's close. After sex, why don't you just let the foreskin recover the glans?

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Re: It worked!

May 1 2009, 8:40 AM 

It's sensitive enough to be painful, and I dont think that is what is desired during sexual intercourse. Though, I understand where you are coming from with that statement. As an uncut fellow, I know it is important to keep my sensitivity or else i'd be just like those circumsized people, masterbating with vaseline.

But when it's painful, I know that is TOO sensitive.

And what do you mean by recover?

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May 1 2009, 3:00 PM 

To cover the glans.

During intercourse, there should be no pain if you have enough lubrication. Have you found otherwise?

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Re: Recover

May 2 2009, 9:47 AM 

When it's retracted, it's stuck there until I roll it back up, thus trapping all the blood in my glans I believe.

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Then roll it up

May 2 2009, 4:50 PM 

Keep working on the tight ring with your fingers so you won't have to be concerned with this.

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Re: Phimosis-Paraphimosis

May 1 2009, 8:18 AM 


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May 2 2009, 4:20 PM 

Well, I'm sure it will settle down one way or another, but I tend to the suspicion that your first experience of intercourse may be in such circumstances where the young lady was not generously lubricated.

Jim's meaning was "re--cover". happy.gif

For instruction in stretching, just read a lot through the forum here.

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Re: Ouch!

May 3 2009, 8:53 PM 

Hey thanks a bunch, the support on this site is great to see

And to be clear, during the actual intercourse penetrating part of it, it was not painful. It's the hand jobs rubbing and blow jobs (sorry for the childish language) that are the painful part.

Paul B.
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Ah yes, might have known!

May 4 2009, 6:18 AM 

This does not surprise me at all!

What you are saying is that intercourse works just fine - just as it is as it were, "designed" to, but your partner (who I am at this point presuming to be a young lady) simply does not know how to handle an intact penis.

Therein lie the "trick". There is this "automatic" presumption that no skill is required to perform a "hand job" or "blow job" - it's dead easy and self-evident. Well of course, it is not and the two worst cases are people who have either practiced on a circumcised penis which is far less sensitive, or just as bad, watched pornography and are so foolish as to believe they have learned something from it. sad.gif

Get real! If someone does something on a "hand job" or "blow job" which is painful, it is not because there is anything "wrong" with your penis whatsoever, it is because they quite simply - haven't a clue! They must needs learn how to do it (as you yourself did), which means, unromantic as this may sound, that you need to teach them in the obvious fashion - "Oh, that doesn't feel good, too hard/ rubbing without the foreskin over or without lube" and then "Ooh, that is nice!" See my previous posts regarding teeth!


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I think I have the same problem

May 9 2009, 6:08 PM 


I wasnt sure where to write on here so hopefully iv picked the correct space....When I was a kid I couldnt retract my foreskin and it was tight and painful when going to the toilet..I ended up having surgery...and i can only guess that it was a circumcision but becuase i was soo young i cant be 100% on it!!

Anyway..i can retract my foreskin when flaccid...when erect..my foreskin retracts just over the head of the penis glands...here it gets very tight...if i continue to pull my skin back i get a thin white line that goes all the way around my penis..I imagine this is a result of the surgery??

Im 23 and from reading info from norm.org i clearly wasnt given any decent advice!! recently i had sex and i simply wasnt getting enough stimulation and i put it down to the restriction in my skin stopping just at the glands...

What can i do about this?? Iv started doing the strecthing but im alittle confused on how to do them sad.gif

Dont want to sound silly..but im getting really anxious about this and need some advice!!!!

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Don't be so sure

May 10 2009, 6:40 AM 

If you're having difficulty in retracting, you can pretty well bet you didn't have a circumcision. During the surgery, the tight ring is always removed, and the tightness won't return. The white ring you see is the part which needs stretching. With the foreskin forward, insert your fingers and pull the opening apart.

Paul B.
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Curiouser and curiouser!

May 10 2009, 3:12 PM 

... said Alice.

It's pretty difficult without seeing you to guess exactly what sort of operation you may have had seventeen years ago, but if you still have a foreskin then it clearly is most unlikely to have been a "standard" circumcision and I don't think they were offering "partial" circumcisions (a rather bizarre term with no real meaning other than to obfuscate the performance of a standard circumcision) back then, particularly in the UK.

I would settle for the possibility that you had a "dorsal slit" performed with a particularly good outcome. Unfortunately, something has gone wrong since - it would seem that you could retract after the operation, but lost that ability at some stage, presumably form getting careless and failing to retract each time you went to pee (since young fellows, particularly children, generally have an erection when needing to pee, generally to great advantage wink.gif).

Anyway, the point is - don't sweat the detail! Whatever the story, the "cure" is essentially the same. Look back here through the discussion threads, learn and understand the two "exercises". Your target is to get first one, then two fingers inside that tight ring that you have identified, and put firm pressure on it for a few minutes as often as you have the chance. You need to alternate this with stretching the frænulum, since if you have not been retracting, that is almost certain to be a little short for comfort.

Please do tell the detail of just how you lost the impetus on foreskin retraction as a child/ adolescent; and do keep us updated with your progress.

Oh yes - in regard to intercourse; perhaps do explain a bit more about that. This is the first time for you? To what are you comparing it? Just what expectation did it fail to meet that you can say you "simply wasn't getting enough stimulation"?

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