Firstly, I am 21. I currently able to retract my foreskin fully when flaccid (right to the base of the penis) and am able to partially retract when erect over the head of the glands, although this is not through simple gliding motion and takes some manipulation as it often gets stuck under the rim of the glands. When masturbating I simply rub my foreskin back and forwards over the glands. This has been fine,although I feel that I have to do this this longer than I should before climaxing and I am often left with my shaft and ring round the gland getting slightly swollen for a few hours which doesn't seem healthy.

When I have tried to have sex I sensibly always wear a condom. However, due to my problems with retraction, my foreskin remains forward thus covering the glands. However, this has resulted in me feeling a a rather dull sensation whereby I cannot really feel anything and find it difficult to stay aroused because of this. I have then proceeded to manually retract thus exposing the glands,and then putting the condom on , however the tightness and extreme sensitivity I experienced around the ring of my penis is unbearable.

Also I have a problem with sensitivity. I appreciate that the glands are suppose to be sensitive.I understand that. However, the pain I feel is more than uncomfortable. Even when retracting and washing in the shower feels uncomfortable. Again I understand that having an intact foreskin is designed to preserve sensitivity but having to deal with this seems too much.My fear is that during sexual situations when my foreskin does retract the sensitivity will be unbearable and may result in having to stop.

I have heard all the discouraging comments around circumcision , however if I was indeed circumcised it would at least deal with the issue of sensitivity, tightness and any avoid any issues over retraction.


Please help I am in dire straits.

This is something normally sorted out in the early teen years, so that is why you are super sensitive. Give it a little time to adjust to being exposed and touched.

The ring at the opening of your foreskin needs to be made larger. Read back through several of the previous threads to get the hand of what to do.

Don't even think of letting anyone near your penis with a knife.

Clearly you need to stretch your foreskin opening. We have "done to death" the instructions to do this, and you should have no trouble figuring it out by reading back here.

Yes, if you were circumcised, you would undoubtedly have no problems with "excess" sensitivity or tightness, and retraction would never be a concern. Now of course I trust you understand why circumcised men do not suffer from "excess" sensitivity and the process by which this comes to be so manifestly reduced?

That said, I venture to observe that were you circumcised, you might still find it both "dull" and uncomfortable using a condom! There are just certain mechanics of a condom that are never quite "right" (but I hardly need to elaborate - again - how important they are ).

So I leave you with two things - no - three.

1. Do the stretching.
   
   
2. Any time "excess" sensitivity seems to be a problem, please consider why this is not a problem when your foreskin is covering the glans (and please note the spelling and meaning of that word). It is because your foreskin is very effective at both retaining and emulating lubrication - although your description of soreness from masturbation suggests this may actually be deficient (and that's another story).
   
   I suggest you locate some "personal" lubricant - if you were already using this I would have expected you to mention it already - and use a little of this under your foreskin when you masturbate, and inside the condom if you are going to retract your foreskin.
   
   
3. You know, I am really concerned that you have tried to "have sex" and found it "difficult to stay aroused because of" a lack of sensation. This suggests to me that you are far too preoccupied with your own sensations and oblivious to the real situation. I would suspect that your partner was none too pleased either - and not because you "lost your arousal". In which case (or in most cases anyway), you will need plenty of the personal lubricant on the outside of the condom as well.