Your mention of Wikipedia provokes me to wonder just how you came across our discussion board here? The entries on Wikipedia regarding foreskins, the frænulum, circumcision and the like are essentially controlled by one or more "Internet pests" who make a point of ensuring that any reference to such useful
) as we post here is removed from Wikipedia as quickly as possible, so I believe you would have come here via some more indirect route.
I presume that when you observe that you can see your frænulum "on the stretch", this indicates that you can actually retract your foreskin and see most
of the glans (else you would not be able to see your frænulum, of course!). This nevertheless suggests that you need to stretch the opening
in the foreskin, as if it was of sufficient calibre, you would be able to pull the foreskin fully back but the foreskin would simply "bunch" just behind the glans due to the frænulum tethering it - as this illustration
more-or-less depicts (noting however that the illustration is actually
one of a perfectly normal
Now, we would definitely
advise stretching - both foreskin and frænulum - as so routinely discussed here. Note that - but this is nothing we have not stated very regularly - stretching the frænulum is
a much slower and more tedious objective than the foreskin opening, and it will
take some time and effort. Jim has stressed this and given the basic steps, but you really should read thoroughly back through the discussion here to gain a full understanding of the process.
I put it to you that you ask "would this make sex dangerous/ painful?" but you have already
been having "sex" - "hand-jobs and the like" (and I ask myself, just what is "the like", like?) and found no problems. Am I to presume you anticipate (vaginal) intercourse is more violent
than a hand-job? There really is no reason it should
be and indeed, it should be somewhat the opposite - more gentle and somewhat slower since (you cannot move your whole body as rapidly as just a hand and ...) you will be experiencing more complete containment of your penis. The only
reason intercourse would tend to force your foreskin back would be that (you had omitted to use a condom - but why? - and) the young lady was not sufficiently prepared
(lubricated) for pleasurable intercourse.
As Jim mentions, the possibility of tearing your frænulum is no more alarming than the "traditional" expectation that the young lady's hymen would be torn (considerably less likely nowadays due to the experience of tampons) - these are closely equivalent occurrences. And where that nonsense on Wikipedia (and various other places on which such disinformation is common) is so absurd, is that based on the "risk" of tearing and subsequent scarring, they might then go on to recommend some form of "surgery" involving a much wider
cut, the wound presumably sutured (stitched) together, and make the preposterous implication that such a procedure would somehow not
result in even more
Common sense surely directs that stretching
(which really means causing the normal process of growth
of the skin to accommodate to the new desired length; which is why the process does
take some time) will achieve the result whilst avoiding scarring altogether.