first of all thanks for the work you guys put towards site, i am 24 and have probably been in denial that i have something wrong(different) with my penis/foreskin. I haven't been that sexually active but have realised now that i have paraphimosis (or phimosis) as when i get erect it seems to often fall behind the glans. it is rather annoying having to do this during any sexual activity (and embarrasing) i now realise i need to sort it out. I have went to my GP today who has referred me to a specialist, he says it is not phimosis as i can retract the penis and it is definately paraphimosis. I told him i had heard about stretching from your site and he knew nothing about this method, he said circumsicion is the way forward but the specialist would properly advise when he checks me out in few weeks.

i guess my question is - are these stretches on here (the one where you pull it away from body, and trying to get hold of frenulum to stretch it - are they relevant for paraphimosis? or just phimosis? my main problem is the fact it slides behind the glans and i have to manipulate it back. I can retract when flacid easily and when erect (although when erect its slightly uncomfortable masturbating etc pulling back foreskin whole way back and forth)

I want to avoid circumsicion and keep foreskin but want to clarify that these stretches etc should work for paraphimosis as well? sorry if its been discussed in previous threads, i promised i did try to look back, im just bit confused on what i actually have....the gp straight away said it was paraphimosis and not phimosis, he seems very surprised on why i would want to keep foreskin when its giving me such problems.


your help/advice is much appreciated (or if you can direct me to relevant paraphimosis discussion thread)

David

While we prefer to avoid clinical names here so we don't scare you into thinking you need some kind of operation, the two terms really refer to the same thing. In simple language, your preputial ring is too tight to allow replacement of your foreskin over the glans. The solution is simply to stretch the ring. You don't need another specialist to waste yours or the public's money on his opinion.

This is the recommended exercise when you can get two fingers inside the opening:

http://pages.suddenlink.net/manual_methods/phimosis.html

Set aside two sessions, everyday, of ten to fifteen minutes each. Follow the directions under the picture. Since you are already able to retract, this should be solved within a month if you are faithful. The stretches to which you referred are generally used by those with really tiny openings or for lengthening the frenulum, that little web like structure under the pee hole.

You do not have "paraphimosis". Your GP clearly has no real idea what "paraphimosis" means (at least in the sense commonly described).

You will find plenty of information here about stretching your foreskin opening so that it moves more easily back and forth when you have an erection. You most likely have a short frænulum as well, and should do the stretching for that in addition.

We would suspect the specialist will also press you for a circumcision, and strongly suggest you cancel that appointment immediately to avoid being given further heartache.

thanks so much guys, you certainly make me feel bit better and confident i can sort this out without losing a major part of my instrument.

Its good to know that this is the specific stretch that i focus on, i admit i find it bit uncomfortable doing this, i cant hold it with just two fingers i need to get my other fingers to support etc but i guess the point is the ring just needs to be stretched..

I feel like ill still go this specialist to get his opinion but im definately keen to avoid operation, i wont be rushing to anything like that so fingers crossed stretching works.

D

David, you just got TWO opinions from among a handful of the world's leading experts on this subject. Why do you need another?

yes i know, i guess i just feel it be good to at least hear what he has to say when he does look at it....im going to tell him about the stretching and i am very much in favour of going down this route..I believe u that it works and have been trying to do this over last few days, it may be working im not sure. one thing i want to confirm is that it doesnt matter if its not the index fingers does it? i mean i find it difficult just having two index fingers opening it wide i have to get a few fingers on both sides to stretch...i guess the main point is i just need to pull it away from body and feel it stretching? and do it as often as possible...

Since you can retract, you really ought to be able to get a couple of fingers inside, but if not, try doing this for a few days until things limber up:

There is some implication here that we are not quite "on the same wavelength" in this discussion.

I gather that your problem is this: You can slip your foreskin back to completely reveal the glans (head of the penis). This is quite easy when flaccid (soft), and when you get erect, it often pulls itself back anyway. I gather you are complaining that it is somehow difficult to pull it forward again to cover the head when erect and perhaps even when flaccid.

What puzzles me is exactly why this should be a problem, particularly why this might prove embarrassing when you are with a ladyfriend - what is it that you expect it to do that it is not doing at present?

Now whether the tightness is a problem making it difficult to retract, or whether it is a problem pulling it forward afterwards, you presumably need to have it stretch wider. The manoeuvre Jim references is certainly the way to do this stretch, it should be emphasised that the important details are that you have the foreskin forward (which will be easier if you do not have an erection at that point), that you get the fingers fully inside the foreskin so that they are "hooked" inside the tight area and that you are pulling the fingers apart rather than away from the body.

Which fingers does not matter, people who start with a tight foreskin need to use the little fingers first. On the other hand(!), the middle fingers are probably the largest and easiest to use. Getting more fingers in is great, and what the diagram does not show is that you would generally be able to rest the fingers of opposite hands against each other to more comfortably "lever" them apart rather than using your arms to pull on them.

Please do clarify just what your problems were in the first place to see if we have missed anything.

Thanks guys - yes this is correct, quite easy when flaccid but its just difficult when erect. To answer your question on why i think its problem/what i expect it to do, i guess the fact it automatically goes back behind glans and i have to struggle/play with it to get it back over glans is bit uncorformatble and quite akward..im assuming most guys can easily just move it over glans back and forth even, including when masturbating? and the foreskin just stays where it is when erect and not doing anything? .as im not that sexually active its hard for me to work out if its going to happen every time or if its just every now and then getting stuck behind...when masturbating i never pull right behind glans so it hadnt been much of an issue in past..I have been stretching over last few days..not sure if any major progress yet, I do seem to get red marks at end of foreskin from stretching but im assuming thats just bit brusing/wear and tear its not bleeding or anything.