you can see my postings a few weeks back. i am also using flesh tunnels, ear plugs. really, you just need to keep it in there and be disciplined about it. start out with a small one and just let it sit in there for a few hours, sometimes i go all day. i don't leave it in at night because of fear of any kind of tearing or pain that may happen if i get an erection in my sleep. don't jump to larger sizes too soon, it will cause tears (i did this at first.) also, you probably have read this over and over again in here, but it shouldn't hurt. it's a litle uncomfortable at first for me, but then within 5 or 10 minutes the skin stretches and relaxes and it feels like nothing is even in there...or next to nothing.
i have also been using an antifungal cream and hydrocortisone. this was recommended by my urologist. i had a white tough ring around the opening and he thought it was BXO. so far so good. the ring is almost gone, but the stretching is slow.
i'm at a point now where i can fit my ring finger inside the opening. i think it's been almost a month.
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