Hi all. I am a 21 year old male. For the last month or two I have been trying my hardest to pull it back as much as I could each day, and to my surprise I FINALLY got the foreskin to to fully retract over my head. I was relieved, but the head was SUPER sensitive (I am assuming because it hasn't been exposed before). So for the last day about twice yesterday I pulled it back and let it sit for a while, and I did the same a while ago. It doesn't retract super easy yet, I'll probably have to keep at it for a month or so before it gets easier.
Anyways, once I pull it all the way back, pulling it back over the head is pretty tough and I usually have to use a decent amount of force to get it back over and it doesn't feel very comfortable when I do. Now I think I am just trying to rush it to be fixed but will this just take time to loosen up? Also, what can I do to make the head of my penis less sensitive, because I couldn't even really touch it yesterday but today wasn't as bad. Someone had told me to let it get erect while the skin was retracted which I did, but it started to hurt because I think it was stretching the skin too much.
I have also considered circumcision, but I don't really want to have to do that if it is not necessary. Any tips you guys could give me to help me get through though would be highly appreciated!
Have you read through several of the threads so far? This is suggested because all the instructions are given within them. Since you can already retract, you should be able to start with the advanced exercise and get yourself to normal very quickly. Nothing should hurt while you're doing them.
Just pulling the skin back may eventually work, but it's going to take a long time. My suggestion is to begin by doing what is illustrated at this site:
Why do you expect your glans to be anything other than "super" sensitive? Is it because for circumcised men, it is not? Are you trying to imitate a circumcised man?
Have you any experience at all of a woman's body? Do you know what a clitoris is? Have you touched one, and seen her reaction?
I have to say, if you had done so, you would not (or I would hope you would not) be asking such bizarre questions or making such curious propositions as to wanting to make your glans less sensitive, or indeed to be imagining that it could ever be "necessary" for any reason to have two-thirds of the skin cut off your penis.
But I could be wrong.
Do spend a few hours reading back through the site here.
Jo (no login)
Re: I'll mention this yet again.
April 10 2010, 3:39 AM
Paul, my glans have NEVER been exposed, it is not just sensitive, but feels really uncomfortable to the touch, it shouldn't be like that normally. And how would I NOT know what a clitoris is? I am a virgin because of this condition, I didn't want any problems to arise. I haven't asked any bizarre questions, I am sure most people with my condition would be pretty curious to what is going on.
I will give you the answers - as I have done in the past, and I do recommend that you read back and find where I have explained all this before.
Yes, of course your glans is all the more sensitive for having never been exposed, and will sort itself out in due course as you proceed with the retraction exercises. It is almost amusing how the circumcision advocates claim that the continual exposure resulting from circumcision does not result in loss of sensitivity, or their risible efforts to distinguish the "right" sort of sensitivity from the "wrong" sort.
The reason you are "a virgin because of this condition" is in fact, not because of the condition at all, but rather your social ineptness and lack of sexual knowledge. Unfortunately (well, only in some regards, being a virgin is not a "problem" in itself, but perfectly reasonable prior to marriage, but that's another discussion alone), the two things are mutually reinforcing - if you are socially inept, you will have little or no experience of the female anatomy (whether or not you know what a clitoris is from textbooks - nowadays the Internet - or dare I say it, pornography), and if you do not have that knowledge, in addition to your lack of knowledge of your own sexual function, it may well make it more difficult to relate to young ladies.
So to put it bluntly - it should be perfectly obvious to you that your glans is not "excessively sensitive" when covered by your foreskin, even when you manipulate it quite vigorously during masturbation as I should be genuinely surprised if you did not. Intuition should lead you to wonder just why this is no problem, yet touching it outside of your foreskin is unpleasant. Well, the reason is that having your foreskin cover your glans limits (but not totally) the degree of frictional force applied to your glans - that is, side to side pressure. Being quite thin - comparable in fact only to your eyelids which is in itself something of a hint - it has little restriction of perpendicular pressure which is in fact desirable to the glans.
The critical factor in comfort to the glans is then, lubrication. You should note in previous posts that I return to this point again and again. It is particularly relevant that this is the very same situation for a woman's clitoris, which is why I point out that you clearly do not have experience of this, else you should realise that the same applies to your own glans. By and large, not perhaps universally, women react in a similar manner to you, when their relatively dry, exposed clitoris is touched. On the other hand, when it is adequately lubricated as it might be with their own secretions from an adequate period of sexual arousal (though someone has to collect these secretions from within the vulva and move them up to the clitoris), then stroking of the clitoris becomes quite delightful and of course, enables progress to orgasm.
Now, I would hope you might use this information in three ways, to disconnect any concerns regarding your own sexual function and anticipated relationships, from the matter of stretching to correct your phimosis, to understand that you have no "problem" with "excess sensitivity" but that you simply need to use some form of lubrication for any activity - whether stretching or simply exploration - involving your exposed glans, and thirdly, to "get real" and consider how you are going to address your social ineptness, "lose" the notion that it somehow depends on the "performance" of your penis (which of course, it never did, even with phimosis), and simply get out and "circulate".
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