you have not had sex with a young lady so far, is simply that you have not yet developed the social skills to form such a relationship. Mind you, my
personal "take" on the matter, is that you do not cultivate any relationship simply to have sex, but I must allow some people do
seem to think that way - though I find it somewhat ironic when they later complain that subsequent relationships prove less than durable.
At 18, there is really no hurry, but I think you are far better suited to forget about any
perceived "defect" in connection with your relationships - concentrate simply on friendship and if something happens to blossom from there, then so be it.
Yes, of course
not only is it possible
to have sex with phimosis, but most
men so afflicted do not even notice anything "odd". In actual fact, we can safely presume that millions - more likely tens or hundreds
of millions - of men in the world are in such a situation but either do not know
of any need to pull their foreskin back (because of the profound ignorance of sexual matters which exists and which you can easily see amongst posters on the Internet who would purport to have "access" to "information"
) or realise their situation but do not feel any need to alter it as they have continued to have perfectly satisfactory sexual experiences, father children in the normal way, and have no problems with their foreskin.
there a difficulty? Well, a little "common sense" suggests that it has not prevented you from peeing so far, and it has not prevented you from masturbating which you no doubt did before
the "discovery" that your foreskin should retract - indeed, being unable to retract can be a distinct advantage
The only "difficulties" are essentially twofold. While ever you are completely unable to retract (whilst erect), then you cannot
put excess tension on either the foreskin opening, or the frænulum. When I say "cannot", I mean that a normal
amount of tension will not be painful, and one presumably is smart enough to know what "too much" force is. When the foreskin can
"almost" retract however, it is
possible to get just a little too enthusiastic in sexual activity (whether by oneself or in various activities with a partner) such that the foreskin is pulled over the progressively tapering part of the glans and "snaps" over behind, which is not only painful but can put sudden uncontrolled stress on the frænulum and tear it (or indeed, the foreskin proper). A condom substantially
reduces this risk.
The second (difficulty) is that having the foreskin permanently covering, does
reduce sensation. This in itself is by no means always a disadvantage - one of the more commonly posted questions (in places where such questions are asked, sadly more often than not a case of "the blind leading the blind") relates to supposed over-
sensitivity leading to "premature ejaculation". In fact, the always-covered glans does
tend to be more sensitive anyway - and again if you have read my various answers on this matter, you should understand that this is not in itself a problem either
. The fact is, just as
with masturbation, the sensitivity of the glans adapts
to circumstances, being covered or not, and much of the excitement of being with a partner is - the very presence
of the partner.
Sensitivity does tend to wane with age - but much less so than in the case of the glans permanently exposed by circumcision (or in fact, a naturally deficient foreskin). Sadly, the excitement of having a partner does truthfully tend to wane a little also (see also "limerence
"), so whilst the covering foreskin may not be a concern in youth, it may
become something of a liability in middle age.
As a general principle, I point out that having a foreskin that will not retract, is essentially no worse by any means
in terms of function, than having had the foreskin removed by circumcision.
Of course it must be emphasised that the stretching exercises are equally valid at any
age (indeed, including the extremes, childhood and old age), and that with congenital phimosis (persistent since birth), the frænulum will virtually always need stretching from the start.
Details: When did you actually realise that you should be able to pull your foreskin back, how long then have you been working at the stretching, and by what method(s)? When in the process did you discover this site?