Hi there.

Like most people on here I have a tight foreskin. A bit of history on this..

I didnt realise that things were not quite right until I was 17. The first girl I was ever with didnt seem to "upset" my foreskin. However the next girl pulled it back - as I did not know that it should be pulled back, holy cow that was a shock - and one to this day that I still can not deal with.

Anyway, When I was 21 I had been in a relationship for over 3 years, and the girl that I was (and am still) was like myself relatively inexperienced before our relationship, and she knows how to work things when we are not having penatrative sex. Until now we have always used condoms and the pill, using condoms to hold my foreskin in place. Now my gf has an implant and is more confident about as she can not forget to take her pill so both of us want to go with condoms.

Getting back on track. 3 years ago I went to the doctor with an unretractable foreskin (the only thing that would ever make it go back, excluding that girl who gave me the shock, was sex, but this was very uncomfortable), and he refered me to the urologist for a frenuloplasty. So - I went a head and had this op, the urologist was 90% sure it would fix my problem, so confident that he did not want to see me again after the op. However of it did not work then circ was the next option.

My situation now is that rather than having an unretractable foreskin, I now have a tight foreskin. I can pull it back, all be it mechanically. So while the previous op was not 100% successful, it has helped.

I have tried stretching, stretching in the bath, and stretching with E45 cream, but no real progress. Part of the issue is that some times I am more tight than others.

Tonight I rang my local sexual health clinic, and they told me that steroid creams do not work, and that circ was more or less my only option. Now, while I would not normally question a medical professional, there are too many reports online of successes to make me doubt that it does work.

One thing that I thought of is possible yeast infection, as some times the top of my foreskin is red. Not sore, but sore looking.

Where do I go from here? I really do not want to get circ


Thanks,

A product which is basically a hand lotion will do you no good for stretching, nor will just any steroid. There is one specially formulated steroid which will give results, and it requires a prescription from your doubting doctor. It does work.

However, stretching without the medicine also works. In the absence of infection, in fact, stretching works 100% of the time. The reason is that you are programed to work that way. Your foreskin knows no better than to grow in response to tension applied.

When success does not occur, the yeast light goes on around here. The redness could also be an indication, or it could just mean you had lots of action the night before.

Nothing is lost or harmed by treating for yeast. You won't need a prescription to buy the products which fight it. Almost any brand will work, even the stuff used for athlete's foot. Applying twice a day should do the trick.

If you do have yeast, there is a cause. It's almost alway the use of soap on the inner parts. Your foreskin is lined with the same stuff inside your mouth. Get it? Don't use soap there. Clear water works fine for washing away what ever you get inside.

Don't worry, you don't need a circ, nor does nearly every other human male on Earth. It's just a good means of keeping the doctor's bank account in good order. Since you already know the pleasure your foreskin gives you, you'd be immensely disappointed without it. Get busy with the job.

Guys,

Thank you for your quick reply.

Right now I am a little (all be it not massively red), and by no means did I have any sort of rough session last night. The last time I had sexual intercourse was Sunday.

I will buy some anti yeast cream when I am shopping, as you say I have nothing to loose with it.

I have read/am currently reading through the forums.

The stretching I am currently doing takes two main forms:

#1 pushing my thumb and index finger under my foreskin and pushing out. Holding for 30 seconds and releasing. Repeating this process several times.

#2 similar to above, but rather than using a thumb, I am putting in my two index fingers and pushing out (with the joints pushing against each other)


Reference the condom. My foreskin (uncomformably) retracts when having sex without a condom - so much so that I can not bare it and have to stop immedietly. This seems to occur due to the natural lube pushing my foreskin back - however it does not allow it to come forward. An obvious concern here is paraphimosis.

Paraphimosis sounds really terrorizing, doesn't it? It's also played to the limit on pro-circ sites. The truth is that a guy your age has nothing to worry about. If your foreskin retracts and gets stuck, you simply get it unstuck with your fingers. Sometimes lube helps and sometimes it's necessary to pinch the head while coaxing the skin back into place, but it can be done.

In your case, I see no fun in pain during sex, so wear the condom. Once you gain full retractibility, you'll still have some issues with sensitivity for a while, but in time, you'l figure it out. Lubrication generally helps that a lot.

The clue to the problem of sensitivity when the foreskin is retracted is - that when the foreskin is not retracted, there is no problem. This means that there is nothing wrong with the sensitivity - it is what it is. What you then ask is - what does the foreskin do that makes it comfortable? Well, clearly it negates friction because any drag causes the foreskin to slide over itself rather than moving over the glans itself.

The clue then is friction, and lubrication to avoid it. Friction can be dealt with using the following two-step algorithm:

1} If it is uncomfortable, apply more lubricant - a good "artificial" lubricant sold for the purpose. How you do this is an interesting point - basically you need to squirt a bit inside the lady. Putting it on the penis (or indeed, condom) means that most will be wiped off as you insert it. I leave it to you to figure out exactly how you get the lubricant in there.

2} If after applying lubricant, it is still too sensitive, then refer to step 1.

I have to point out - if you say "This seems to occur due to the natural lube pushing my foreskin back", what you actually mean is that your foreskin is being pushed back because of a lack of "natural" lubrication. You have two options - get her to make more, or use an "artificial" lubricant.

Paraphimosis? Yeah, it's a concern all right. Best way to avoid it is to stop reading pro-circ sites! And if your foreskin gets pushed back and it is uncomfortable, well, you just pull it forward again. How easy is that?

{If you do the reading, you will note that you use the "pullover trick" - like taking off a pullover from the bottom, you grab the foreskin on both sides behind the tight part, and pull that part over the glans, then just keep pulling until the tight part slips forward again.}

What do you mean by stretching? How much have you read here?

Well, do the reading here - it is essentially, all here and pardon me if I am in no hurry to repeat it all - you only have to do the "research" which is to say, start reading through discussion "thread" after thread, dozens of them on many index pages (of ten threads each).

If you do that, you will find the answers in great detail, and much more.

It seems you have found out that the particular doctors you have been seeing are not to be trusted and are apparently practicing "cattle-yard" medicine in addition to plain outright deception. Well as you will gather, that surprises us not one bit, medicine frequently is a bit "commercial".

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Oh, and just one minor point - when you make a posting here, there is a box called "preview". Please use it (I most certainly do) and read what you have written to see whether it makes sense, then go back and correct what does not. I think I understand what you are trying to say, but I'm none too sure about that bit about the condoms and such.