hi after ive torn my frenulum and let it heal i do streching for a few weeks now i feel a bit sore after masturbation and i havent hadsex for few months now im afraidit would get torn again....why do i feel sore and is it more likely to tore again now when it hapened once or streching it would fix the problem totaly what can i do about the look of it its not like before its thinner on the bottom and splochy like on the top...and can i remove the the frenulum and what are the effectsof that procedure and how its done?!?! pls answer to all quoestion im dealing with the problem for 8 months now (streching 3 weeks) thanks a lot and bye
The cause of the soreness could be one of two things or a combination. You may have a yeast infection. This is easily treated with over the counter products. Secondly, the skin may be irritated from the extra attention it's receiving.
If you are stretching the right areas, the fix will be permanent, provided you carry it to completion. The skin may appear to thin out as it is generating new cells. In time, it will be normal again. Patience is a very necessary part of this endeavor.
I don't recommend having anything removed. If the frenulum is too short, stretch it.
It would be interesting to know just how you tore your frænulum, how long you have been sexually active (which is to say, to what extent did you perceive your frænulum (or tightness of your foreskin) to be a concern before you tore it) and roughly how old you are in the first place?
Next, how tight do you feel it still is? Presumably after tearing, it healed in a looser configuration (and gentle stretching while healing is probably the most valuable opportunity). How does it appear to limit your retraction now?
When you refer to stretching your frænulum, are we clear that you are doing it according to the specific procedure we describe in past discussions here, or do you mean something else? How often and for how long? Unless you are doing closely what we describe, we would be inclined to discount the suggestion that you are actually stretching at all.
Is it in fact your frænulum specifically that feels sore after masturbation? Have you altered your usual practice in some way?
Excess tension on the frænulum during intercourse implies a failure of lubrication, which is in turn, a demonstration of poor sexual technique (that is, failure to entice the lady to be sufficiently excited and receptive, and to maintain that enthusiasm, to be adequately "wet"). The same problem in fact, which causes "failure" of condoms. Which leads to the next point - it is much more difficult to damage the frænulum whilst wearing a condom, so I wonder on what account you would actually have been having intercourse without using one anyway?
i am 22 years old it was like this: ive never had any problems with foreskin or frenulum i was always capable of pulling it over my head without problems ive had sex with condom and didnt have any problem but the first time i tried without one at one moment i felt sharp pain and i didnt stop becouse i felt the pain just once i dont know even if it bleed or not..just the other day i saw a little dot on my foreskin and when i touch it it bleed a little and stop...then for 3 months i left it and i stoped everything( sexualy) and went to the doctor he said it would get torn again and sugested cutting it thats what he said "cut it a little":D then after all and all 6 months after it happend i found this site and im doing streching for a month now like on the picture ..some days i dont strech is that ok? i feel sore a little after masturbation like the place is iritated or something when im not masturbatin its ok nothing at all ..the looks of the frenulum its not reparing for now i can pull it over my penis but its very thin and i dont feel much pain just a little uncomfort..so thats it sorry for the long text:)
Quite frankly, it seems to me that you don't really have a problem at all!
November 20 2010, 1:15 PM
It appears you have indeed, torn your frænulum. But apart from the initial tear, it caused no significant pain, and apparently, no significant bleeding. If that is the case, should it tear further, what would even be the problem?
Are you aware of the concept of a woman's hymen? If you have been having intercourse, you must presumably at some stage at least, had some thought of it. Clearly, the fact that it may initially be present, and simply through having intercourse, be either torn, stretched or both, presents no significant impediment at all. Though you may hear the advice to the worried that "if it is too thick, it may be necessary to see a doctor to have it cut", that is largely nonsense - such a presentation to doctors is (nowadays at least,) ridiculously rare.
Now of course, the hymen may bleed when torn but the fact is - bleeding is very much a part of the everyday experience of women, so that hardly rates a mention. As is some degree of pain or discomfort though the fact is that if a woman suffers pain in intercourse, whether for the "first time" or otherwise, and outside of any genuine medical cause, it simply means that the fellow inflicting it is both clumsy and insensitive. Nothing about loving intercourse is meant to be painful.
I suggest that relative to this, you seem to have little about which to complain. Yes, of course you should be stretching the frænulum, using the technique we frequently illustrate. Yes, you need to do it very firmly, regularly and persistently because your skin is designed to stretch only when it really needs to - clearly that is its "design". If it becomes sore from time to time, then perhaps that is consequent to the stretching but it is not too difficult to become sore from vigorous masturbation or indeed, other sexual activities, particularly where the lady cannot directly feel the effect of the force she is applying. For the very same reason, you have to be particularly attentive to how you stroke her to make it pleasurable - I trust you have worked this out for yourself.
tnx i think i understand what u said...my worry was that the damaged frenulum isnt coming back too its old looks its a bit weird and when erected and pulled over my head its very very thin (becouse its torn) and should that make bigger chances to torn again ..it makes me nervous i cant stand it anymore (i know im a baby !
Point again is, it really does not seem to matter.
November 21 2010, 12:56 PM
Now your answers here make me wonder a little as to whether you actually understand which part the frænulum is - the "web" on the underneath side of the glans, immediately under the urinary meatus or "pee hole", which only appears when you pull your foreskin back.
It may tear when you forcibly pull your foreskin back, something which is only really likely to happen if you are thrusting during intercourse, with completely inadequate lubrication or having your foreskin manipulated by a somewhat clumsy partner. Use of a condom tends to negate such a risk as the condom itself bears the brunt of such forcible retraction but all the more so as the condom tends to contain your own natural lubrication and prevent its loss as there is far less space inside the condom, than inside the vagina and the condom moves with you so thrusting does not (or should not) "pump" the lubrication out.
If your young lady is truly enjoying the experience, she will of course, provide adequate lubrication anyway, but the pragmatic fact is - she may not actually be as focussed on it as you are, and this can lead to loss of lubrication.
Now I would by no means encourage you - or anyone - to pursue sexual activity other than with a committed, permanent partner but the fact is - if you have already torn your frænulum, it should have healed such that it was looser than before, so it should be less subject to tension. It should be longer, not thinner.
Nevertheless, I cannot see from what you describe that the previous occurrence of tearing was actually particularly traumatic at all, so I also cannot see why you should be be particularly concerned should it tear again.
Re: Point again is, it really does not seem to matter.
November 22 2010, 7:56 AM
(i know what's the frenulum ive been reading about this a lot but my english is poor i cant express my self like i want to)well it looks weird enough now so torning again im afraid it would divide in 2 pieces or something idk:D or the skin will generate in a time like it was in the first place before i tore it?! thats my concern...maybe my mistake its that i was reading a lot so many people many answers this is the only site that consider this not a big problem all others "cut it,remove it ,it will hapen again for sure etc."
And this is why I keep on referring you back to the situation of a woman's hymen.
November 22 2010, 12:32 PM
It gets torn from time to time (and of course, during natural childbirth, it gets completely shredded!); it heals - it does not heal to be tighter than before, and no-one makes a great fuss about it.
The usual reason it does not heal tighter than before, is that (pardon the pun,) no-one generally "babys" it - they simply keep on using it - for intercourse - as it heals, so it does not get the opportunity to heal tighter. Or else it does heal a little tighter, and then gets torn again - tearing is, or can be, the natural mechanism for it being remodelled to suit its function. Or in fact, one version of the natural mechanism, as it just as often simply stretches with repeated use.
So I do not see that your situation is different. If it tears, it tears, and if it does so, it is because it needs to be longer, so you simply allow that by doing so, it will become longer. The process is in that sense, more accurate than getting someone to cut it so it looks long enough to them, it will tear "to fit" the need. There is no difference as far as the frænulum is concerned, between tearing and being cut, in terms of how it heals, and either way the important thing is to ensure it does not heal back to its original position by stretching it - whether by deliberate stretching or continuing the sexual activity - regularly - as it heals.
It might bleed, it might get sore, and it might even get a minor infection in the process. Infection is a not uncommon consequence of surgery (it is a very common consequence of circumcision) in this area, so the suggestion that surgery is "cleaner" is actually risible. Your description is that this has happened at least once before and you hardly noticed it, so surely that indicates something to you?
Yes, you can find dozens of sites, some even claiming medical "authority", which tell you other stories. That's sad, I'm sorry about it, but there is absolutely nothing I can do about it. All I can do, is to state - mostly on this particular discussion board - plain, sensible (what some would call "common sense" - if that really exists) ways of considering this and similar situations. The fact that others claim differently is just a particularly unfortunate "fact of life", so very evident on the Internet.
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