As I understand it, urologists are surgeons (well, they certainly are where I live!) - they make their living performing surgical procedures which attract substantial premiums, particularly in America.
You have a problem which does not really lend itself to surgery so if you go to see a surgeon well, "if the only tool you have is a hammer, each problem with which you are faced tends to closely resemble a nail"; it is not surprising that you tend to get the surgical answer.
In addition, almost all the surgeons you are likely to visit, will themselves be circumcised, so of course they will tend to tell you that circumcised is what you should be. Why would you even expect them to say otherwise?
In general, if you want a doctor with competence with skin conditions - and that is after all what the foreskin is, then a dermatologist might be closer to the mark. In fact, all you need is a prescription, and a competent General Practitioner (albeit I realise, you are in America after all) would be able to do that perfectly well.
I sense however, that you have not actually read through this discussion board in any detail, so perhaps you might just explain to us what you think stretching is?
I'm actually in the same boat (looking for a urologist). I found some in the Beverly Hills area that I plan to call this week. From doing some research, I've been looking for 'younger' doctors as they would know more alternatives than circumcision. Email me for more info. I'm debating about using cream or Y-V Preputioplasty. I don't think mine is severe enough to be limited.
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