Hello,

I found this website after searching a bit and decided to post since I've had a problem with tight foreskin...

25 year old male, fairly sexually active with a monogamous partner for the last 3-1/2 years, and although I have had semi-tight foreskin issues, it hasn't really inhibited my life too much, but just makes me a little uncomfortable.

For example, my foreskin retracts without problem during sex, and when well-lubricated glides easily...however, before lubrication it can be relatively painful/uncomfortable to retract, and it never retracts "fully," that is, when it is retracted it "bunches up" under the glans.

Additionally, because of my sensitivity, oral sex is only satisfying when my foreskin is mostly forward, and my fiancee generally uses her hand to insure that the foreskin does not stay retracted while performing oral sex on me because its more comfortable.

Additionally, when masturbating, I rarely retract the foreskin myself because of comfort.

My question is what should I do to stretch it? I want to be able to retract the foreskin with ease, particularly when erect, and I don't want it to bunch up...is there a small surgical procedure that I can undertake in order to "relieve" some of the tension without losing my foreskin?

Thank you!

Your situation is easily resolved. The first step here is always reading back over several threads. Read this one in particular: http://www.network54.com/Forum/244184/thread/1292801224/last-1293273253/Foreskin+won%27t+pull+back+past+the+head

The link imbedded in that thread has an illustration which you should immitate. Doing this far a few weeks will permanently solve the problem. You'll need first to achieve your goal and then continue for about six weeks to ensure cell growth.

Surgery is not necessary.

I'll give that a shot...hopefully it works! It would make my confidence a lot higher and would make oral sex a LOT more comfortable.

Thanks again!

... is to read deeply, back through this discussion board as it has already been described, frequently, and in detail.

Your situation is fundamentally identical to the majority of people who come here with their problem. There are two components, the circumferential tightness of the foreskin which restricts retraction - more so when erect - and the short frænulum which limits how far you can retract once the foreskin can slip over the glans (head).

In your case - and it is not unusual - the short frænulum seems to be far the more troublesome problem, and the "exercise" Jim points to is the important one. When you pull your foreskin back, you want to identify the spot where the frænulum ends in the foreskin. Then pull your foreskin forward again while you note - or take hold of - that point. That is the point you need to grip to pull on, and you pull enough to make it uncomfortable, and pull for longest time you can, continuously, on each occasion. This should take one hand to do - the other end of the frænulum is anchored to the penis (just under the glans) and you do not need to grip it.

Oral sex is interesting (to say the least)! Performed on a male, it is actually very difficult and/ or ineffectual. Of course, if the situation is sufficiently exciting, any form of sexual stimulation will readily obtain a "result", but (do correct me if I am wrong on this ...) it is really very difficult for the young lady to both envelop the penis (glans) and stroke it (by head movement) with anywhere near the rapidity needed. What usually eventuates, is that the foreskin (or shaft skin if circumcised) is manually stroked against the glans while the glans is (rather pleasantly) held and manipulated in her mouth.

What I am suggesting is that whilst you do want to achieve more comfortable retraction, that will not necessarily greatly change the method or nature of oral - or other - sex.

Of course, we basically never advise "a small surgical procedure" to "fix" any of these problems. People rather naïvely fail to appreciate the implications of surgery, particularly the duration of the recovery period, on such a mobile and functional - and sensitive - body part. We estimate that with due diligence, the stretching that we prefer to advise, would achieve the same degree of comfort in the same time it would take to adequately recover from surgery.

Thanks, Paul.

I've started trying the stretching exercises, but I think that the frnulum is not actually my main problem...when retracted, I'm able to "continue" to pull my foreskin back, although it feels tight. Is this because the ring itself needs to be stretched a little so as to not cause the bunching that I described above?

I guess what I'm trying to say is that in the photo described above from Jim, I don't get much in the way of tension or pain...in fact I can stretch/pull the underside of my foreskin pretty easily.

Thanks, again...asking these questions and reading through the topics here has been greatly encouraging to permanently fixing this problem!

Well of course, we are not in a position to actually examine your foreskin - with or without an erection - so it really is up to you to determine to what extent the circumferential tightness or a short frænulum individually contribute to your problem, and act accordingly. Once you understand the two "exercises", you can use them in a suitably directed fashion.

I mainly wished to point out that your expectations need to be guarded - not because there is any insurmountable problem present, but because you may expect things of sex that are not actually realistic. It has its complexities for both men and women (though women appear to have more difficulties overall) and notably, oral sex is not really a "natural" function for which the body is optimally designed, though I am by no means suggesting you should not indulge in it - in fact, it is often better than the "natural" for women!