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Torn skin - please advise

February 8 2011 at 5:35 PM
anonymous  (no login)

I was with my girlfriend about 5 weeks ago and while we were together we seemed to put too much pressure on the part of the penis which connects the skin on the shaft to the tip of the penis. This resulted in a small tear which resulted in a lot of bleeding. The bleeding stopped after about a 15 minute shower.

We took it easy for a couple of weeks because I was afraid of tearing it more, and then for the weeks following that period everything seemed to be working fine. A few nights ago it happened again and tore a bit more. It did not bleed like it did the first time but it stung quite a bit and is starting to worry me.

Is this a common occurance for someone with an uncircumcised penis? Should I go to the doctor?

Any advice is greatly appreciated as I care about my penis very much.

 
    
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Jim
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I'm quite sure you do care!

February 9 2011, 11:03 AM 

He's probably your best friend, right? LOL

Tearing of the frenulum is probably pretty common for younger intact men. The problem stems from having a frenulum which is too short for the amount of flexibility you'd like to have in your foreskin as you thrust. There is generally nothing to worry about, and usually seeing a doctor is not necessary unless you get an infection.

Just be careful during sex for a while, but meanwhile, don't try to baby the area too much. Continue to retract your skin to keep the area flexible. You can apply an antibiotic cream or ointment one time and keep the area clean, but avoid any cleaning products such as soap.


    
This message has been edited by jimsplacetofixthings on Feb 10, 2011 11:26 PM


 
    
Paul B.
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You will note

February 9 2011, 1:26 PM 

that the problem of a tight frænulum is one of the main themes here. On that account, I would advise you to undertake some deep reading through this resource - many "threads" on many pages - as an important educational exercise to understand the problem.

I will presume - as you have not mentioned it - that you have no trouble pulling your foreskin back other than the tension on your frænulum. In this case, what we suggest is that you pay more attention to ensuring that your lady-friend is adequately lubricated as you engage in intercourse (or careful with other activities) because having your foreskin pulled back so vigorously as to actually tear your frænulum does imply that she is not slippery enough; and that you also start with the stretching "exercise" for the frænulum that we describe, even while the present tear is healing (just do it a little more gently than you would expect to when it is fully healed) because you want to "make the most" of the extra leeway this tear has provided.

You will see that people talk about having the frænulum surgically cut (there are various ways to do this, some much simpler than others) but that we advise stretching instead, because it more closely follows the natural development of a normal frænulum. However if it tears, then we advise that that is entirely OK too, because it will more-or-less tear to the point that it "needs" to, and heal up usefully looser (particularly if you use the opportunity to keep stretching it).

And of course, we remind people that women may tear their hymen, usually early in their sexual experience, which is considered to be an entirely expected and indeed even desirable matter. Clearly, tearing the frænulum is a similar matter, and one which should be seen in exactly the same light. Infection to the degree of needing to see a doctor is very rare and there is otherwise little or nothing useful a doctor can offer (though some sadly will use the opportunity to "sell" unnecessary and damaging surgery so are truly best avoided).

Zinc and Castor Oil is very soothing - see my other advices on this.

And I would not say you are "uncircumcised" - I would refer to you as "intact".

Don't forget - do the reading here!

 
    
anonymous
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Re: You will note

February 10 2011, 12:38 PM 

Thank you both very much for your help. I have taken the time to look through several threads and certainly wish I had done so long ago.

 
    
Jim
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No problem

February 10 2011, 11:29 PM 

Just curious where you're located.

 
    
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