My question is pretty specific. I'm trying to follow the foreskin stretching instructions that are often posted here but I have a concern. Does it really matter "how" I stretch it? I mean, I know that I should stick my two fingers in and pull apart. It's just that on the diagram shown, the stretching is occurring right at the end of the foreskin. My foreskin sort of bunches up on top of my penis when flaccid though so I'm not sure if I'm doing it right. Should I pull the foreskin away from my body, then insert my fingers to make sure I'm stretching the end of it? Or is it enough to simply stick them in even if the skin is bunched up and pull apart?

I'm asking because if I actually try to un-bunch the skin it becomes quite difficult to get my fingers in and it causes some pain. This makes sense since the opening is obviously smaller than the rest of the foreskin, but is it still effective if I stretch something other than the opening? I mean the opening is still being stretched I imagine, but it's just easier to get the fingers in.

I also have an unrelated question. How do you know if your frenulum needs stretching? In my current state I can fully retract my foreskin while flaccid without any pain. When I'm erect I can get it around a quarter of the way down the glans without any real resistance, and about half way down before it starts getting tight and hurting a bit. After it's loosened up (normally from masturbating or something) I can actually retract the foreskin all the way over the glans although it's not very comfortable. The thing is, during all of this my frenulum looks very "strained." I don't know how to describe it, but it gets pretty red and looks sore. It's not bleeding or anything but it looks like it's under a lot of stress. I can't really comment on how it feels, because by the time my foreskin is pulled back to where my frenulum starts getting strained (around half-way down) the rest of my foreskin is tight enough that there's discomfort everywhere. How can you tell if your frenulum is at fault? Is it if the foreskin on the top of your penis has no problem sliding further but pulling the bottom hurts I just feel mine is short for some reason but I'm not sure how to tell.

Thanks

When you stick your fingers inside, do you feel a tight ring? That's what to stretch. Pulling the skin out away from you will facilitate getting the fingers inside.

If the foreskin is limited in range of retraction to your liking, or if there is pain upon retraction, the frenulum probably is too short and needs lengthening. No harm comes from stretching it.

Yeah, when I don't pull the skin off I don't really feel a tight ring. I've only been doing it for a day or two so I'll start doing it that way even if it's a little harder to do. Thanks for the reply.

I'm sure this is posted somewhere but how much should you stretch the frenulum? I see the picture posted on how to do it and I can feel the frenulum being tight so I know it's working, but I'm wondering if I'm supposed to do it 20 minutes a day two times a day like the other stretch or if it's different.

The frenulum requires more effort, maingly because it's so hard to get hold of. Do it about five to ten minutes twice a day. Also, after peeing do it as long as you can. That gets in a lot of sessions throughout the day. Use just enough tension to make it uncomfortable.

The reason the frænulum is so difficult to stretch is twofold. It is on the one hand, thinner, which means it is more sensitive and will not tolerate as much force (thus it is not infrequently torn during sex, while the foreskin when healthy, is very unlikely to do so). You have to apply the force carefully.

Also, the proportion by which you desire the frænulum to stretch, is much greater - you are generally want it to stretch to at least four times its initial length. Most of the time, the proportion by which you require the foreskin to stretch is much less, of the order of two or three times (unless you have a truly "pinhole" phimosis).

And no more specific than every other query here.

In order to stretch, you need to get your fingers completely through the narrow section of the foreskin, so that they are on each side alongside your glans. Only then can you be sure that you will be applying pressure to the full depth of the narrow part - and you need them to "hook" through that part to prevent them slipping out as you apply the pressure.

Now how you get them in is less of a concern, but generally, stretching out the foreskin makes it easier to get them through that narrow part.

You say you can "fully retract my foreskin while flaccid without any pain". The question is does that "full retraction" mean that there is no bunching of the foreskin in the sulcus (groove) behind the glans? If you can see that in that circumstance, the frænulum is holding the foreskin bunched and tending to pull the glans downward, then it clearly does require stretching. My bet is that it does.

Thanks for all the replies. I have a better idea about the foreskin issue now.

I have a similar question about the frenulum stretching. Is there any way to tell if I'm doing it correctly? If I grab the very end of my foreskin and pull it's pretty sensitive, but if I grab a little more foreskin it's much easier. I'm assuming that my frenulum is the "string" that gets taut when I pull the foreskin there. Regardless of how exactly I pull the foreskin the string tightens so I'm curious if it that's all that really matters. It's really hard for me to get a grip on the very end of my foreskin and if I'm able to take a little extra skin in my fingers it makes it a lot easier to hold it for more than a few seconds. I'm just making sure that a stretch is a stretch and I'm not wasting my time.

Thanks for all the replies

You should try to make the frenulum taut. As you describe what is happening, it appears you are doing that.

grip enough of the foreskin to comfortably apply tension - and there is really no shortage of foreskin.

The only criterion really is that you hold only one edge of the foreskin, that is, you have one finger (the thumb in the illustration here) over an inside fold of the foreskin to apply the tension, because the finger on the outside will only tend to roll more of the foreskin forward. But you may roll some of the outside forward in order to have enough "inside" for a comfortable grip.