To extract an adequate answer; winkle out all
the details, and to shake out the notion that they just want to be told that they had it right all along and it was someone else's
OK, so the little "studs" are presumably the root of the original frænulum, before it tore. Yes, that's the point, you always
need to be stretching, just a little more gently if it has recently torn (or have had it cut or tied).
The problem with the "pill" includes the potential both of lying and forgetting. For anyone (female) who really
does not wish to become pregnant, I always advise the Implanon® implant which has an additional point of verifiability; once shown, you can check it for yourself.
If that sort of sex is expected, I dare say you will simply have to get used to the pain or use lots
of extra lubricant. Your choice; you
will have to figure it out.