Hi there, I'm 14 and I honestly have some questions. I only recently discovered that you can pull back your foreskin, and that kind of shocked me. I masturbate in a way that I put the tips of my fingers on the penis head (foreskin not retracted), and kind of 'vibrate the fingers'. Hard to explain, really. So, my point is, I have never retracted my foreskin and I am kind of scared to do it. When I'm erect, I can barely see the head at the opening, but I just wuss out when trying to pull it down. I just have a weird feeling when I attempt to do it. It's kind of like, a cool, never experienced feeling for me. Should I be worried? What if I have phimosis or that frenulum thing? + How far back should the foreskin be able to go? Sorry about being such a wuss and so many questions, it's just that when it comes to things like this i'm really..uhh, frightened? (+ Yes, I know I have to clean my penis etc.)
Understand that the millions and millions of intact men retract their foreskins regularly. The all began with the first time. Just try it.
Do it the first time while your penis is flaccid. The chances of success are much greater, and success will give you courage to try again.
You have a tight foreskin, and most likely your frenulum is also tight. It's a curable situation, and easily so. Cleaning is not the big deal some people make it. It's not on the priority list right now.
Try retraction while soft and get back to me.
Latvis (no login)
April 10 2012, 1:35 PM
So, thanks for the fast reply, obviously. So I just attempted to quickly get up and pull it down, but the problem is, I seem not to be able to while flaccid. I take hold with my fingertips the top of the penis head, and pull down, but there is still a little bit of foreskin left, so the head isn't uncovered. I'm just not sure if I should take the other hand and repeat the process. I'm such a wuss when it comes to this, I really am sorry.
We cannot see you from here and have no idea where you are.
How far down the head does the skin go. Can you uncover 1/2 of it? Can you get two fingers inside the skin?
Latvis (no login)
April 10 2012, 2:49 PM
Well, I can slide it as much down (flaccid) to the point that the head kind of starts to open up, but not fully. I'm just not pulling it down that hard. It's really my fault here for not fully sliding the skin down, I wuss out. It's The fact that I've got quite a lot of foreskin on the head. I'm not sure about 2 fingers though, My penis isn't that big in width anyways. Shouldn't I do this when It's erect or something?
First matter is that to test for retraction, there is no need to force it. You just see if you can pull the foreskin back; if it comes back easily, that's good, if it does not, then you know you need to do the stretching and evidently, you do. It's not quite so relevant at this point whether you have an erection or not; obviously the penis will be larger when you do so it is going to be much more difficult on that account, but as you observe, if you do not have an erection then there is sort of nothing to push back against.
There is a concern that if you pull it back over the head forcibly, you will have a problem getting it forward again - this is actually relatively easy as long as you do it straight away - you simply grab or "pinch" the skin immediately behind the tight part, on either side with each hand, and pull that skin forward over the tight part and keep pulling it forward (as firmly as necessary) until the tight part slips forward over the head again.
So now, if it doesn't want to pull back, you want to stretch the opening of the foreskin so that it does. We do not advise that you try to stretch simply by pulling back when you have an erection as for a couple of reasons, this is not likely to be very effective though you may well come across people on the Internet advising this.
The second step then is to ignore those other sites on the 'net and forget concepts about "phimosis" and "Frænulum Breve" and do some heavy reading here, of many previous discussion "threads" - indeed at least two or three index pages worth (of thirty threads each) - so that you learn exactly what we advise you to do to stretch, and what other people have discussed about it.
Along the way you will note that "cleaning" is not actually a big concern at all - since there is no reason for it to be dirty under your foreskin in the first place and that your particular way of masturbating is just fine (well, it gets you there, doesn't it?).
Latvis (no login)
April 11 2012, 8:51 AM
So whenever I went to bathroom I tried to pull back the foreskin while flaccid, little by little. Till I can see a bit of the head (though not the sides of it, only the top). So I suppose if I do this slowly, it will be easier....BUT..
Looking over some pictures on google, I think I have phimosis. =[
Since I'm kind of too shy to photograph my penis, I can provide other examples.
We don't use the word phimosis because it carries a connotation of disease requiring medical treatment. It is used in the title of this site for purposes of recogntion by search engines to facilitate ease of finding. What you have is a tight foreskin which you can remedy with the exercises.
Yes, there are two pictures, and there is a link. If you can get two fingers into the opening, begin with the method on the page linked. If you cannot get two fingers inside, start with the second picture. The upper picture shows what to do for a short frenulum which you also probably have.
We are totally not interested in discussing with you whether you have "phimosis" or not!
Because that line of discussion is going to get you nowhere and fast. That's why I warn you to ignore purported "information" on other sites about "phimosis" and "Frænulum Breve" and stick to the reading back through the site here - deeply.
The pictures you reference most likely do not illustrate a tight foreskin. As a matter of fact, none of them look particularly erect to me anyway but even allowing for that it is quite normal even for a foreskin that will retract, for it not to do so when you have an erection, until you actually deliberately slip the skin back. This allows for the fact that the foreskin, especially at the tip in a part called the "ridged band", is very elastic and able to both close down snugly or be pulled wide open as it goes back over the penis head. It in fact contains a form of muscle to do this. So pictures don't really tell you much unless a series of them show the foreskin sequentially in the process of pulling back.
Technically, you have "phimosis" but we can forget that, we'll just refer to it more correctly as a "tight foreskin" - what you need to do is to stretch it.
You see the concept of "phimosis" covers two things. As should be obvious to you now, when guys are born, the foreskin cannot be pulled back and certainly should not be. (There are of course, anomalous exceptions to this where the foreskin can be retracted quite easily or even is missing.) It is generally able to be pulled back some time in childhood or early puberty and indeed it might be expected that the young fella would discover this whilst playing around with it. It no doubt helps if he has someone else to observe doing this and want to copy, or at least parents tell him that this is what will happen - it seems you missed out on this education.
So people - notably doctors - are inclined to call this "phimosis". Well, there is a second situation where the foreskin at some stage was at some stage able to be pulled back, but starts to get tighter and progresses to the extent that it cannot be pulled back any longer. A medical term for this is "secondary phimosis", which means that the problem is secondary to some form of skin disease affecting the foreskin in particular. We discuss this here and the usual causes for it - and of course how to deal with it.
But what you have, is the first - you simply have not developed to the point of your foreskin being able to retract. At fourteen, it is now less likely to sort itself out on its own, so it will need a little help and you should get to work on the exercises (including the one to stretch the frænulum). There's no need to get down-hearted about it, you will have to give it time but - there is never any hurry to it. Just do the exercises and it will improve over time, eventually you will be able to retract, firstly when flaccid and later when erect.
April 27 2012, 4:18 AM
Ok so i have trie stretchig for a while ad i can get it back to like the rim but i am scared to go further icase it gets stck or something ? help ?
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