How do I tell a girl I have phimosis. I'm just extremely afraid she'd tell a friend and that it would spread around school. That would literally be the worst. Is it really a big deal? What are some of the experiences others have had in their sexual encounters with phimosis.

Also, on another note, how do I wash smegma away when my glans is so sensitive. When i'm flaccid im able to retract pretty much all the way, to expose the rim, but the smegma is pretty stubborn. Any tips?

This is not the big deal you think it is. Why would you consider telling a girl, especially one who might kiss and tell?

Use some common salad oil to emulsify the smegma. Olive oil will do. Once it's dissolved, it should wash away. There's really no hurry.

If you cannot trust said girl to be discreet about this minor anomaly, then you certainly should not be involving her in any exposure of your genitals in the first place, should you?

Or is this the way sex works in your school - an exhibition sport - "look what we did" - "can you beat this"?

Don't sweat the smegma. She almost certainly has it as well - I wonder how she deals with it? When (if) you get to see her "bits", do take a close look in the folds and see how much she has. It's quite interesting.

Do read - heavily - through the discussions here. You need to learn how much a tight foreskin does (not) matter for various sexual activities, and that the sensitivity you describe is actually a very good thing.

I don't know if I can trust her. How am i supposed to tell if she will kiss and tell? No it doesn't work like that necessarily but I know for a fact that some girls, and guys, do that.

I think i'll be able to deal with the smegma though, thanks. I know it doesn't affect sexual activities and thats what is so frustrating about it.

As Jim says - think back through - why do you need to tell her?

Is it because you suspect she will treat you inappropriately in a "hand job" or "blow job"?

Well, if the Name of the Game is casual blow jobs, being a "safe" substitute for uncommitted intercourse and that is indeed what you expect to do, well apart from getting moving right know with the stretching we describe here, you probably will have either to risk being "manhandled", or explaining to her that your foreskin does not come back and requires a slightly different and more careful form of attention.

Can't have it all - or at least, not in a hurry. Are you starting with the stretching now?

The reason I think I need to tell her is because I'm afraid if I don't explain what it is then she would tell a friend about it, either because she is curious what it is, or because it is shocking and then that friend would blab about it to another and so the dominoes fall.

The possibility of being manhandled could be a factor as well.

Yes I'm stretching. I have been for a good month or two, but really not as frequently as I should. It's kind of a hassle, and a pain. I'm a chronic procrastinator and slightly lazy. Those are my other problems, but I'm starting to feel like even my "here and there" stretching sessions have worked to an extend so I'm getting more motivated. Also I gotten rid of the god awful smell of the smegma, and had the balls to retract my foreskin completely while flaccid. The phimotic ring is now blindingly obvious.

How long should I stretch for? And how frequently?

You need to stretch for a month to six weeks after your goal has been reached. Do it twice a day for ten minutes each session.