that the Internet is full of evil.
Nothing much that I can do about it, except as I do here, to provide factual
advice in as clear a manner as possible.
people promote circumcision? Well, this is not a "cut and dried" matter; there are clearly a variety of reasons contributing, not all
representing clear malice.
In regard to men that are
circumcised (and their female partners), there is the "misery loves company" aspect. They have no real way of reversing the circumcision, usually done to them at the behest of
a parent and possibly a doctor, which makes it quite difficult to accept that those who did this and whom they would like to regard with affection and respect, were in fact (respectively) either quite stupid, abusive or both. Respect for parents is after all, fundamental to culture and respect for doctors, fundamental to health.
It is very uncomfortable
indeed to know that you have been deliberately
harmed by these people. It is consequently, difficult to accept
this, and becomes quite attractive to believe that it was in fact, the "correct" thing to do and has somehow benefited oneself, which then unfortunately demands that the harm be performed in turn on children or clientèle - a "vicious cycle" of abuse.
And we can only suppose that those who as adults, actually choose
circumcision even without any apparent justification, are reflecting the psychological damage consequent to an abused past.
For doctors, it also becomes profitable and an exhibition of "mastery", both
very strong motivations. This would readily explain the attitude of your "senior urologist"(!), even
presumably, if he happened not
to be circumcised himself.
One really does have to be concerned about someone who is not
circumcised, recommending it for any reason. Either the profit motive has predominated over any regard whatsoever for the patient's welfare, or he really does not value sexual function and by that implication his own
sexual function since he should
(and a medical professional most certainly should) have determined this from direct personal observation. I hold that the inability to discern this, reflects very badly on other
aspects of professional competence.
Both the manner of your writing and your approach to this matter, carefully seeking the most appropriate evidence and sifting against your own "common sense", indicate that you are a pretty smart fellow. Unfortunately, others are not so blessed and may not fare so well. You indicate a fairly close familiarity with the medical profession and I am curious as to what your place in the system is?
It would have been myself who repeats
the comment (often verbatim, from my reference file) that the problem
and accordingly the appropriate advice
- including the appropriate attitudes to sexual practice - is almost always the same; variations upon a theme. I do hope
- sooner or later - to construct a "FAQ Tree" of this information and lodge it on a website so that we can simply link to each component.
As Jim points out, I deliberately do not
stress my own credentials, as however "senior" they might or might not be, your experience - and that of many others who come here - clearly
demonstrates that such credentials count for nought in determining either competence or honesty.
It really remains up to you
- and every other fellow comparing what we post here against the rest of the Internet - to get it right!
Overall, your last answer there is commendable, elegantly summing up the points we have made, and with much the same sense of irony.