that you have been reading here. I think if you read more
discussions - not just a "few" but a lot
, you will get an idea of your concerns here. However ...
1} I'd assess so-called "phimosis" - which as you see is a term from which we prefer to steer people away - as rating about commensurate with your mild headache. It's pretty difficult to avoid
headaches, so if you get them, there is no single thing you can do to prevent them in the future, whereas if you have a tight foreskin
and actually do
the stretching, it need never come back as a problem (or if it does, which would necessarily be caused
by a problem such as we discuss here, then that
can be resolved accordingly). So I call it a quite minor problem.
problem is that fellows get unnecessarily alarmed
about it, and start thinking about all the things they read, including circumcision
. Not surprisingly and quite understandably, that leads to blind panic - when you start talking about circumcision that really is
a form of madness.
2} The concepts that intercourse might be painful
, are based on a faulty model of sexual relationships. Intercourse is not
about forcible penetration of the vagina, though reduction of this to an animal act as depicted in pornography might readily suggest it. It need and should not be painful to either
partner whether due to a tight hymen or
a foreskin that does want to retract, because you should be sufficiently gentle
and careful to establish full and adequate lubrication
before you even propose to put your penis in.
The two things that might
cause pain if lubrication is lacking, are that the foreskin actually does
retract over an erection to the point that it almost
slips over the glans so that it is put severely "on the stretch" as it is pushed back that last part - a sort of "wedge" effect - or that it will
retract but the frænulum is somewhat delicate and all further tension from the foreskin being pushed back further, is conveyed to the frænulum.
Both of these things are relatively easy to assess for yourself. And of course, with a condom (where lubrication on the outside is still
critical), it is the condom that takes the "drag" so it is generally no problem at all.
3} The "glans
" is a single object (not plural), a Latin term meaning "acorn" because of course, it rather looks like that. Having not been retracted before, it often does look like that, but in the absence of discomfort or irritation (itch), you need not worry about disease. I can best describe it as having different colours like the different areas of your tongue.
4} I think the answer is that we consider this a genuinely important
subject that is extremely
poorly understood in common parlance, largely due to prudery regarding sexual functions in general. If it were not for the existence of circumcision
, this would not actually matter that much, but as I see it, the only
way to exterminate the practice of circumcision in civilised
society is to educate
people to realise that there are simply, no
reasons for it to be practiced other than sheer malice.
Now that is a tall order, but something that needs
to be done. Making this information (as you describe it, "good advice") publicly available through the amplification of the Internet is the most effective way presently to hand. We leave it to the reader to assess this for him/herself, but I trust that I leave sufficient clues around as to whether
I know what I am talking about.