I'm 16 and I live in Britain, for as long as I remember I have had a tight foreskin, but for the past 2-3 years I have become more aware of it, and because of that it's pretty bad. My foreskin swells when I urinate and I cannot stretch it because the ring of my foreskin must be like 1mm wide. It's effecting me pretty bad, I have had several chances to have sex but have never been confident enough to go through with it because of my foreskin, which is really annoying! No 16 year old should have to go through that! And I have seen people posting you should use yeast infection cream or steroid cream, but I am 16 and being realistic I would never have the balls to buy any of this stuff myself or go to the doctors... Please help seriously.
Thus far, you haven't died from this condtion, and you won't. You also won't die from not having sex at 16. There is plenty of time to resolve the sitution by the time you are mature enough to understand the seriousness of involving yourself sexually with another person.
Yeast control products are sold over the counter at all pharmacies. You may need that, but you haven't mentioned symptoms. The steroids effective for tight foreskins are available only by prescription. You would definitely benefit, so if you wish to, you'll need the courage to see the doctor.
My suggestion is to employ a skin tunnel inserted into the opening. As progress is made, a larger one can be used to continue the job of increasing the diameter of the opening. You'll need on about the size of the opening and progressively larger ones. They should be very smooth and have little ridges on either side which can be used to lock the device in places in the lips of your foreskin. Somewhere on this site there is a picture of a young man's penis with such a device inserted.
This requires some experimentation on your part. The size needs to be determined by trial and error. Insertion is also a matter of trial and error. Are you ready for the challenge?
It's called "masturbation" and if you are sixteen and contemplating sexual activity with a young lady I have to figure you are already an expert at masturbation.
So what makes you think that whatever you presume to be "having sex" with a young lady, would be mechanically different?
Not that, as Jim points out, it is a particularly sensible idea at sixteen, to embark on sexual intercourse and if you did, certainly not without a condom because you clearly cannot trust a partner of similar age to be on effective contraception (unless she demonstrates an Implanon® implant in her arm) and the concept of "several chances to have sex" strongly implies that these girls have already had sex with "several" others and thus have a substantial chance of having acquired - invisibly - a Sexually Transmitted Infection such as HPV or Chlamydia to mention the really common ones.
We thus hope that without realising it, your lack of sexual contact is actually a subliminal degree of sensible caution where the minor matter of a foreskin that will not retract which is in itself no hindrance to sex, is your personal "scapegoat" for not being "in" with the crowd having gratuitous sex.
Of course we are most happy for you to sort the problem out. Approaches to a really tight foreskin have not been discussed much recently, but if you read well back through discussions here - consider reading each of a hundred or more such "threads" - you will find some suggestions and in the process learn a lot about sex, the function of your penis, "care and feeding" and really interesting stuff.
Don't sweat the "ballooning" when you pee. That just means you have a tight foreskin opening and the foreskin behind this is quite loose which is normal. It indicates that the foreskin is not stuck to the glans and in fact, we recommend this as a test that the foreskin has properly separated.
"Pinhole" phimosis (not "pinhead" or "pinprick") can be deceptive. As I so often explain, in order to find the true size of the opening, you need not to pull the foreskin back because the opening folds up and "hides", but to stretch it fully forward (the illustration is frequently published) while you slip something - a little finger tip or a completely smooth dilator such as a pen cap - through to stretch.
And there is no reason to see a doctor (most aren't competent in this area anyway and aren't helpful), and you probably do not have yeast.
I truly do understand what you are saying, but you have to realises things are different in England compared to America, Americans at the age of 16 are still classed as immature kids? At 16 in England we finish "Highschool" and move on to collage? I brought up how is has stopped me from having sex because personally I am very self conscious of my appearance, I have to look good 24/7, so when a girl is trying to get me into bed and I have to try and dig my way out of the situation, well I think you can understand how bad that is. And sorry if this isn't making alot of sense, I'm not great at wording things. But yes to describe my condition better, my foreskin is about 1 to 2mm in width/Diameter. I have white scar tissue around the ring of my foreskin, (I think it's scar tissue, all I know is it's white and hard) And its gets sore when I urinate sometimes, if I push to fast it balloons and hurts. So that's the best I can really explain it, and just to clarify, I wasn't being "bitchy" by saying what I did, I just wanted to let you know I am well aware of sex and other things along those lines, I'm pretty mature if I may say so myself Thanks.
Every sixteen year old in a industialized country is the social equivalent of the others. College in Europe often has a different connotation from what it does in America. Students are to a degree more advanced than Ameica's average kid, but that's only because America is handicapped by so many non-English speaking people who do not embrace the language of the country in their homes. Those from native families are really not that much different. With the advent of the internet and social network groups, we've become a world society anyway. I also highly doubt that kids in England are sexually active any earlier either. It's quite common for kids in early teens to be active.
No matter if your body is ready and the situation presents itself, it is highly doubtful anyone is prepared at sixteen for the emotional connection which is made even in one night stands. That first time will be indelibly burned in your memory for life, and you will have a link to that partner forever. We just don't want to see you hurt, thinking sex is a trivial matter akin to playing miniature golf or video games. It is not.
It is highly unlikely you would have scar tissue or any disease. The white ring is most likely caused by the absence of blood because of the pressure put upon the area by the tightnesss. It's a common thing.
My guess is that you're normal but late in development of your foreskin. For a very small hole, a device is recommended, something on the order of a skin tunnel.
I see your point and what you were saying:) But I would just like to add that I'm not some stereotypical teenager who is obsessed with sex It doesn't actually bother me that much, it would just be nice knowing that when that time does happen I'm performing at my best, ahahaha, But also aswell you said " My guess is that you're normal but late in development of your foreskin." Which I strongly disagree about, I hit puberty around 11-12, and to be fair I am pretty much full grown, I'm a pretty big guy for my age, (not talking about my penis) And you know I would say I am pretty full grown, obviously I wont finish growing until 21 but I am 100% sure all of my body's major changes have been made:) And! I just kinda noticed this but it might help you figure this out. My foreskin is kinda red and looks like it's shiny? That suggests and infection right? It's only like that when I have an erection? Once again, thankyou! You guys are seriously awesome:)
I was not referring to my penis size ahaha, I was just talking about my size in general. And I guess it could have? I use shower gel and it's hard to control where that stuff goes, I know your going to tell me not to wash my penis with soap/shower gel but I have to other wise I will stink? I will just be extra carefull to keep it away from my foreskin:)
Sorry I forgot to say, it's on the outside, I have noidea if it's on the inside, I've never seen the inside...
JC (no login)
June 23 2012, 11:28 AM
His point was that sex is way more taboo in the US than the rest of the industrialized world. I don't know how it is in the whole Canada but here in Quebec, and the majority of western Europe, having sex at 16 is now quite normal. As is getting drunk at 16. Not that I agree with it but that's how it is
You see, what matters about a ("normally") working foreskin, is that it is used for having sex (and in that I deliberately include not just vaginal intercourse, but all mutual sexual activities; "hand-jobs" and oral sex, but also masturbation which perhaps sad to say, will generally form your most frequent sexual outlet over a lifetime). If it were not an important sexual organ, it might not matter anywhere near as much how you (mis-)treat it; whether it functions well or not.
Now I judge sexual satisfaction as a very important aspect of life, especially the role it plays in a marital relationship. For some reason or reasons - an entire discussion in themselves - most current societies and "organised" religions exhibit a bizarre denial of this importance, making it a "secret" matter but not even wishing to reveal those "secrets" themselves (because they do not even know them anyway ).
I therefore hold that in order to "get the message across", we actually do need to educate people (both sexes) on everything about the penis, "care and feeding"; technique of use.
Well, part of that subject is that matter of the relationship in which that penis will be put to use. You may see this as purely recreational, as you say really no different to drinking alcohol. Well, we have been around much longer than you have, and are looking at it from "the other end" as it were (not that I plan to "drop off my perch" anytime soon!), and what you see as expendable, we do not but see it as something very valuable indeed, and something best put to a very particular use, a lifetime undertaking.
You presumably have "heard it all before", but we know the mistakes you clearly do not; and not that we have necessarily made them ourselves (you don't need to take poison to know that it's bad for you) but see them playing out every day. On this account we do feel qualified to give you the warnings - you do not have to heed them, but we wish you well.
You guys are actually pretty damn amazing, you need to be recognised, make a Youtube channel or something, it has taken me a long time to find a site as helpful as this one. So you need to expand or something along those lines! I'm sure if you had a more recognised website it would be incredibly popular! And helpful! Thanks again guys!
We get about 100,000 hits per month now, so I feel were reaching those who need help.
July 13 2012, 8:04 PM
Though I often refer men to this site, I don't often spend time here, myself. Knowing that I might learn something new I do occasionally return to thumb through the various posts.
However, reading Coby's statement (below) and feeling that his concern about scar tissue was not fully addressed, I feel a certain obligation to interject myself into the discussion. Perhaps my concern is misplaced, but better safe than sorry?
(Coby wrote: "I have white scar tissue around the ring of my foreskin, (I think it's scar tissue, all I know is it's white and hard")
I would respectively suggest that a knowledgeable dermatologist have a look ... to make certain that the hard, white scar tissue doesn't indicate the presence of Lichen Sclerosus.
I most certainly do look at each situation presented here with a view to what medical aspects might be present and relevant.
Unfortunately, the only way to diagnose LS (Lichen Sclerosis) is by a biopsy which means - taking a "bite" of at least 2mm diameter (3mm much preferred by the pathologists) from the affected area.
The question then is however - what does one do if it is LS, and for that matter, what to do if it is not LS? Well, I am sure we are agreed that in neither of these situations, is circumcision appropriate or indicated, any more than it (vulvectomy) is in the more frequent presentation of LS in women.
The primary treatment of LS - in either gender - is the use of "ultra-potent" topical steroids for however long it takes for the condition to remit. At least in my country, according to the seminars which I have attended, this tends to be the domain of a gynaecologist (because the condition is much more common in women) For men, well, I would - and have - referred them to a dermatologist for the diagnosis and management.
What then if it is not LS? Well, there is a conundrum. One could suggest merely proceeding with stretching as we have here, depending on the severity of the situation. If there is indeed significant scarring - from chronic inflammation such as the all-to-common Candida infestation, then the treatment is - the use of "ultra-potent" topical steroids for however long it takes for the condition to improve.
Essentially the same as for LS. This means that the step of actual diagnosis - by biopsy - is now redundant, and the only steps required are the assessment of severity (to determine whether the steroids are required) and cause - in order to treat any remediable cause as a first step.
Now in regard to Coby here, let me explain what biases are present in my advice. He describes primary phimosis - a foreskin that has never been able to retract, he does specify some mechanical restriction and discomfort in relation to urination (which does imply severity as an indication for topical steroid use) but no irritation otherwise.
And he has identified a cause for direct skin damage by the use of (any form of) soap, which is (if only we can convince him) readily remediable.
Most significant against the (clinical) diagnosis of LS the lack of steady progression. He specifies that it is not actually getting worse, but his awareness of it has grown in recent years and without in any way dissuading him from the need to correct the problem, we have addressed (or attempted to) the attitude problem with our usual modicum of sexual education, relying on all the information so readily available in other posts as to actual stretching techniques and options.
Of course he has stated reluctance to seek a doctor's review and of course this should nevertheless be the favoured course of action if the situation was such that medical treatment is essential and competent medical management is available. Well, you yourself know only too well the hazards of the latter requirement, and I realise that is the reason you specify a "knowledgeable dermatologist" to which we would automatically add the caveat "but certainly not a urologist or other surgeon". Let's face it, knowledgeable doctors of any ilk on this subject seem to be few and far between.
So I do not think we have been selling him out. This is a condition that has been present for a substantial time, there does not seem to be any urgency (other than the entirely separate matter of a social anxiety) in preventing further deterioration and I frankly attribute the description of "all I know is it's white and hard", "I think it's scar tissue" to the unfortunate consequences of "research" on other Internet sites.
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