hey,

a year or two ago I came on this forum and posted about my phimosis. I was 13 or 14 at the time. I stretched religiously and the phimosis went away before I knew it. thank you so much for that.

now i'm 15. phimosis is a thing of the past, but i'm still having trouble with my frenulum: it's a bit short. the positioning of my frenulum is a bit different compared to the pictures i've seen. my frenulum starts basically where my urethra ends. I haven't had sex yet, but I imagine in order for me to comfortably have sex my frenulum would need to be much longer. if my frenulum was in the "normal" position, I don't think it'd be a problem, but mine is positioned higher up, so I guess I need to accommodate by stretching it a ton. since I can retract my foreskin, to stretch my frenulum i've just been pulling back my foreskin as far back as I can with a full erection and holding for up to 10 minutes at a time. at this point I can get my foreskin back probably half an inch or so behind my coronal ridge when 100% erect. I just want to know: how long do you think it'll take to get my frenulum to be long enough? i'm not in a hurry or anything, just genuinely curious.

this has been something i've ignored for a while now but recently (for whatever reason) i've heard/read of a lot of stories where the frenulum tore during sex. it's been haunting me. I figure it's better to get this fixed now, when i'm not having sex, rather than later, when I am having sex and could potentially tear my frenulum.

thanks again.

Your range is good. A 1/2 inch of travel behind the corona is adequate. Many guys barely retract over the corona. While you do feel you need more? Do you masturbate? Any problems with that?

The point is that there is considerable variability in the appearance of the frænulum, but extending to the edge of the urethra is in itself, quite normal. Actually, it is just as much the position of the meatus which varies considerably, an extreme variation in this being referred to as hypospadias.

Certainly if you had a foreskin that would not retract, the frænulum has not been required to stretch out by normal frequent retraction, so you should persist in stretching it - not by retraction (which may in fact tend to distort your meatus) but by the specific manoeuvre we describe here (just read back thoroughly to find it).

Whether your frænulum is liable to be torn during intercourse depends on how delicate it is - those fellows who complain about the frænulum being "too thick to be stretched" are by the same token, protected against it being torn - and simple common sense (perhaps not such a common attribute ). Tearing the frænulum or tearing a condom both have a common cause; intercourse attempted with a young lady who is not ready for penetration and insufficiently lubricated to make penetration possible without trauma - which also means it will be painful for her. This then represents very poor sexual "technique" and bodes poorly for the relationship.