I'm not really sure where to begin and I have a lot of questions so I hope that wont discourage people from reading/helping.
I'm 19 and I had a tight foreskin. To fix this, I stretched my foreskin gradually over time but never sought information online to make sure I was doing my stretches properly. My situation right now is this: when flacid, I can fully retract my foreskin and reveal my glans and more. However, it seems like the right side of my foreskin is longer (?) than the left side because when I stretch it as much as possible and a good portion more of the shaft is seen on the right side and not the left. When erect, this is also evident. The right side can stretch a bit, while the left portion is tight and stays under the head. Is this a matter of improper stretching and what should I do to even this out?
Secondly, when erect, I am able to retract my foreskin, but it doesn't do so freely. Its good for about half of the head then as it approaches the bottom it gets pretty tight and i guess it quickly goes under the head. It got better over time, but I notice it is MUCH harder to roll the foreskin back to its original position that to retract it. Retracting requires careful pressure at certain points as I slowly bring it up. I want to add that I don't feel pain, but my glans are very sensitive. Could this be paraphimosis? Are there any stretches that help with rolling the foreskin back?
Finally, this is a large forum with many posts and if possible, could someone provide me the basic stretching exercises to help my foreskin move more freely past the glans and back again? Also what and where exactly is the phimotic ring?
On this page, I have posted illustrations and directions. Following those, you can complete the job. Perhaps upon inserting your fingers you can feel a ring inside the skin. This is what needs to be enlarged to allow retraction over the corona. Apply tension that ring with your opposing fingers. Adapt the illustrations to your own anatomy.
The lopsidedness is probably a genetic trait. You could intervene by pulling on the short side for about ten minutes, twice a day to see if you can lengthen it. Circumcised men have actually created new foreskins doing just that, so it is a viable method, although it could take some time. There aren't any places where the skin is stuck, are there?
I really don't think it is stuck. It's just like the skin to the right is a lot more elastic. I don't know if this will help, but I think the frenelum might be a factor in it because it seems like the skin to the left of the frenelum is more tightly attached than to the right.
Also, what should I do about the issue with restricted movement of the foreskin. Will it start to glide freely as I stretch it more?
I think this will be the outcome as looseness develops. As for the lopsided issue, try working on the short side to lengthen it. Even the frenulum can be molded to a degree, but you must have tons of patience and perseverance.
Also, now that I look at it, my frenulum doesn't go straight down. It actually slightly leans to the left from the top of the frenulum going down. I don't know if I'm convincing myself there is a problem or if there really is one.
Well in terms of function, I'm pretty sure I can still reproduce. It's really just a matter of appearance and confidence. Having to explain to a girl (especially here in America) that I have a tight foreskin and she can't do the same things with my penis as she does with circumcised men is slightly embarrassing to be honest.
Seriously, what won't she be able to do that she would do to circumcised man? You're the one with all the parts and the one with the moving part they don't have! She'll be able to do a lot more with you. Do you have any idea how blessed you really are even if your penis is not exactly symetrical? In reality, this will not be what you are imagining. Let's work together on developing that gliding action, and the fact that retraction is a little uneven won't matter that much.
Where are you? I hope you aren't feeling like the Lone Ranger out there. There are a lot more intact men in America than you might think. Of 100 men over fify, probably twenty have foreskins. Those around 20 to 50, there might be fifteen, but among the younger one, the ratio is about 50-50, especially so with immigrants You are not alone.
I misspoke when I said "do". I'm sorry you guys got the wrong idea of me. I never want to be circumcised and I value my foreskin. I'm just acting from my emotions and assumptions may dictate my emotions because to be frank, I have not had sex before. So to me, I would not want to say I am right, rather I would love to be wrong and to hear what actually is true. I was trying to talk about how I think girls would react. What I meant to say was that the media/internet/porn promote false ideas. However, to many girls, partially as a result of poor sexual education in the USA, this is the only sexual reality they know. Thus, I assume if they come in contact with something "out of the ordinary" they will feel, to say the least, uncomfortable. Again, I'm naive and I hope I'm wrong. It could very well just be some fear in me or whatever that is causing this pessimistic, insecure view. I say insecure loosely, I'm not depressed or anything. I would just want both me and my partner to be as comfortable as possible.
I did point out below that not having had sex previously, we might hope that you would likewise find a girl who was similarly sexually inexperienced and that before becoming sexually involved you might "tick all the boxes" that favour her as your only, lifetime partner.
This is always a very worthy and valuable goal in itself, and should be your expectation of a relationship - even if you do not hold it as a priority in your religious faith. And even if it does not turn out that way in the event, it is still the case that a genuine relationship does not involve either party making any "judgements" on the other's sexual attributes but is rather a detailed and progressive learning experience as such things are discovered part by part. That is what "comfort" is.
It goes both ways. It appears to be not uncommon for boys (or "men") to criticise women's labia as being too "long" or "dangly" or "ugly" when they do not conform to what is (for the most perverse reasons indeed to do with censorship) more commonly depicted in pornography, despite the fact that these are functionally analagous to the foreskin and clearly would not exist unless they similarly served a valuable purpose. Clearly pornography is a particularly corrosive factor which makes relationships vastly more difficult and unstable, and should always be viewed with a attitude of the most critical review if it cannot practically be avoided.
So I say - any tendency to feel uncomfortable in a relationship does not by any means whatsoever reflect on your particular anatomy, but instead is your conscience pricking you that you have perhaps mot made the most sensible choice of a potential spouse and - what are you going to do then? The actual worry is rather that she could know some "ordinary" of which to be "out".
Thanks for the response. This is sort of off topic, but I've started to do the stretching exercises as well as pulling back my foreskin when urinating. Since I've been doing that I noticed that the head of my penis is a lot drier than usual. I don't have any pain but I was just wondering if this is fine and healthy for my penis head or should I not retract the foreskin when urinating. Also, it terms of smegma build up and overall hygiene, is it better to dry off the penis head with some toilet paper after you finish urinating?
Well, realise for starters that if you are talking dryness, you are nowhere near as badly off as a circumcised fellow. And they clearly do survive.
Some people even claim that as an "advantage" of circumcision.
I do not really think that this will prove to be harmful. As you will see me so frequently point out, this area looks after itself eminently well - as long as you do not cause damage (and excess production of smegma into the bargain) by using any form of soap/ detergent/ shampoo there.
I generally recommend retracting the foreskin to pee, partly because it is probably nice to minimise the amount of urine left under the foreskin (though when you realise that the foreskin is normally not retractile for many years during childhood, and in cases like yours, extending into adulthood, it becomes quite apparent that this clearly causes no harm), because this favours ensuring the foreskin can retract (especially given that up to and including your age and somewhat beyond, you tend to have some degree of erection when peeing, which also helps to squeeze out the last of the urine) and simply because this tends to eject any smegma or extraneous material.
Now as to the toilet paper - there is an interesting point. Obviously some men wipe, and some don't. Similarly, women may or may not do so - I can tell you that discovering these little pieces of toilet paper (TP-bunnies?) when examining this area is just a little off-putting, so I am not so keen on it. You have the advantage over the ladies of being able to more effectively shake, and a good "whiplash" action is extremely useful.
This is really more an aesthetic than a hygiene matter.
Retracting to urinate is a good idea. If you shake pretty well, there should be no urine on the glans. Smegma has nothing to do with urine. It is a product of small glands which secret a substance known as sebum mixed with sloughed off tissue cells. It is not dirty. Sebum is also produced on your skin and can be found in abundance in the crease of your nostrils. If you were to scrape the backside of your fingernail over that area, you'd squeeze out some sebum. Smell it, and it probably smells just like your smegma. When you wash, use only clear water with NO soap Never wash the insides with soap. Everything inside should be self hydrating. Drink lots of water and forget about creams and lotions.
Be sure you are following the illustrations for guidance in applying tension to the tight parts.
I have this feeling - just a surmise mind you; that fellows who come here are just a tad smarter then the average (Note: average!) which is to say that instead of making assumptions, they are at least researching the situation in some depth and not falling for the more common, but completely wrong answers.
This being the case, it disturbs me that you would actually consider a relationship with a girl of clearly much lesser intelligence - I mean, where is it going to get you in the longer term? What do you see as the long term prospects of such a relationship? And are you proposing an extensive sexual "trial and error" process?
Surely you could be a bit more "choosy" than that. Wouldn't you want the girl for a "keeper", and wouldn't that involve finding one that had not had so many partners as to "pick and choose", and with whom the familiarisation process - her with your little "oddities" and you with hers, would be gradual and comfortable?
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